Post # 1
I’ve seen it done both ways – but is one way more “correct” than another? We’re just doing standard place cards – nothing fancy – our venue offers tableside ordering from a menu they create so no need to differentiate who ordered what or color code anything. I plan to print them myself at home. Do you give everyone their own place card? Mr. John Smith. Mrs. Jane Smith. Or do you list them together? Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. What about couples that aren’t married? Or people who are dating? Whose name would you put them under when you put them in alphabetical order? I was thinking of just giving everyone their own place card. We only have about 75 people total so it’s not like it’s going to cause a huuuge ordeal. Any thoughts on this???? It’s the little things like this I seem to have the hardest time making decisions about!
Post # 3
I made each person their own. This way if they do not want to sit right next to each other, they do have their seat. Besides they normally have to be bought in sets of 48, so I used 3 packs and just had a few left over in case of error.
Post # 4
We didn’t use place cards, just escort cards. I addressed the envelopes to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith if they were married couples. For single women, or married women who attended without their husbands, I used Ms. Jane Smith.
Post # 5
We’re giving everyone their own place card. I haven’t seen it the other way, but it sounds so much easier!
Post # 6
I put both people’s names on 1 placecard – even if they were just just a date (the “and guest” situation – but I made the effort to find out the guest’s name).
As far as arranging them:
If they were married, I used the man’s name first (so, “Mike and Megan _____.”
If they were dating, I used the name of the “main invitee” first. So, if I invited my friend Sara and she brought a date, I put “Sara Smith and name of date here.” Other way around if the man was the “main invitee.”
If the couple was invited together (i.e., engaged, long term relationship – not just a “date…”) I just put the man’s name first, so “Mike Smith and Megan Jones.”
If a family was invited, I put the entire family one card. Example: my aunt, uncle, and 2 kids went like this: “Mark, Mary, Johnny, and Suzie Smith.”
I hope that makes sense. I have no clue if that’s proper etiquette, but it worked out great!
ETA: they were more of escort cards than placecards
Post # 7
we used escort cards, so couples got one card that read “Mr and Mrs john smith” and single got their own card.
Post # 8
@doxielove: When I was researching all of this for my wedding, I was surprised to discover that, if you list the first names of both members of the couple, as in “Jane and John Smith,” the woman’s name always goes first.
Post # 9
We gave everyone his or her own card. It just seemed simpler to me.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think you mean escort cards. Place cards are set at the table where each person is to sit, and then each person needs his or her own because there will be one card per plate, but for escort cards, you can do it either way. Those are the ones that direct people to the table they should sit at, so as long as a party is sitting at the same table, you can put them all together. If you put them together, you should only do this for married couples or those living together, just as with invitations, and the woman comes first if you are writing out the first names instead of using Mr. and Mrs.
Post # 11
@Brielle: Ah wow, good to know! I’m sure no one noticed. Etiquette wasn’t a main concern for our guests (we had a Sunday morning wedding and some people thought it was appropriate to wear jeans, t-shirt, and sneakers….*sigh*…good thing I wasn’t a bridezilla!! )
Post # 12
Everyone is getting their own card. It’s attached to their favor, so no double dipping on expensive chocolates – that was the main reason for one card per person.
Post # 13
I gave everyone their own 🙂 I don’t know if that was “proper” though 🙂
Post # 15
@mrsSonthebeach: Yes, I totally mean escort cards!! I think we might just end up doing one each – we know all of our guests names, and that way people can just grab their name and be done with it. 🙂
Post # 16
We had the escort cards attached to the favors so each person received one. It was easiest for us to do it that way.