Post # 1
Place cards are the frustration of the wedding planning process at the moment for me.
I just don’t really get it. And I consider myself moderately bright and I’ve thought about them for months. Some of them are placed on the table (how do they find where to sit then?), some of them are gathered together in a common area. Sometimes they have the name and table number. Then you have to number the tables. It seems like a waste of paper to me. So I thought maybe I can combine a favor with this, but I wasn’t planning on doing individual favors (instead a food truck or some late night snack later)..so that would be adding to cost and trouble.
So my question is…do I really need to have place cards?! Can guests be troubled to find their own seat?
We are going to have about 175 guests with tables of 8-10. Most people are coming in pairs, with the exception of some singles and some smaller families. I figured if we get RSVPs to the max, it would be more practical to have place cards. If we only have 100-125 RSVP yes, then not so much. But I won’t know that information until the month of my wedding and don’t want to be scrambling to get some place cards together that close to the wedding.
What are your thoughts? Advice? Should I do placecards? If so, how? And any cheap/DIY ideas? Did you do a wedding without? If so, how did that go? So many questions!
For reference, our wedding will be an outdoor ceremony and in a lodge indoors immediately after. We have a casual, rustic outdoor theme going with elements of lace, wood slices, jars, etc.
Post # 3
@Skittles131: We aren’t doing placecards! It’s more money and more difficulty! What we are doing instead is getting a beautifully framed board with our guests’s names and what table they are at (in alphabetical order). Way cheaper and less of a hassle. We are still going to place our guests at certain tables based on who we think would get along with each other, but I don’t want to have to deal with 100+ little cards.
Post # 4
I’m probably the less popular opion here, but I think place cards are a total waste of time, effort, money, and paper lol.
If you are having a casual wedding like you said, do you even WANT to do assigned seating? It’s not necessary if you really don’t want to bother.
Just do one of those cute “pick a seat, not a side” signs outside of the reception area to let people know that they can sit where ever they want.
If you DO want to have assigned seating, you can still do a “seating chart” and not have place cards (this is what we did).
We had about 200 guests and in order to organize the assigned seating, I got a huge piece of posterboard and a packet of post it notes. I wrote each guests name on a post it and then drew big circles on the posterboard to represent tables. That way I could organize/easily move people/tables around until I had everything “set in stone.”
Then I made an alphabetical list on my lap top with all the guests’ names and which table they’d be at, printed it in fancy font and on fancy paper and placed it on a fancy easel at the reception hall.
So there were assigned seats but no place cards. I think a list is totally fine if you absolutley want to do assigned seating.
Or if you are going that casual (which is totally fine) don’t worry about either of these things at all.
Post # 5
So here is what I’m thinking about doing. Ive gone to weddings with placescards, without them, and with a postertype board that had the table assignments.
I think i feel like you do about the whole thing and my plan is my little gift that Im giving everyone will have their name on it with their table number to kinda kill two birds with one stone.
Post # 6
I did assigned tables, no assigned seating.
I did place cards you pick up at the reception entrance on the posterboard that had names of people/their plus one /their kid and the table number. Then I just had numbers on the table. I did mine cheap–went to hobby lobby, bought some cute gift tags that were about the size of my hand and wrote the guests names and table number in gold (one of my colors) and put a cute bracket at the top. Very simple and it got the job done. Don’t stress out about it because (in my experience) no one really cared.
Post # 7
@Skittles131: so if you don’t have place cards will you still have a seating plan? I personally hate walking into weddingS without a seating plan.
Also, are you having a plated dinner? If yes, how will you communicate to the waiters what that meal is?
Post # 8
I don’t think you need placecards…but I do think you need assigned seating. I HATE going to weddings without it. I feel like I have to block off a table for my friends and constantly telling people “no, those seats are taken” makes me feel like a bitch. The other option is to just sit and let whomever wants to sit, but then you end up at a table where you don’t know anyone, or with people who make you uncomfortable. If you have a family there is a risk of being split up if you don’t get in the room at the beginning.
It’s just a nightmare to me as a guest. I dread being at a wedding without assigned seating. You don’t need the placecards or escort cards though. Just a poster with names and table numbers.
Post # 9
You are confusing/combining place cards and escort cards.
Escort cards are the cards that are at a central location and have the person’s name and table on them.
Place cards are at the table and designate the specific seat a person is assigned.
In my opinion, escort cards (or a seating chart) are definitely necessary, but place cards you can take or leave. Planning what tables your guests will sit at will ensure that couples stay together, friends can sit together, no one has to sit at a table with no one they know because the table they want is filled, etc. You don’t need to do cards for everyone; I’ve seen tons of cute charts written on chalk boards, old windows, etc.
Post # 10
It usually works much better to have some sort of assigned seating, even if that is a seating plan with only assigned tables, not exact seats.
If you don’t assign tables, you may end up with a situation where you have one empty seat at 4 different tables and two couples looking for place to sit, or a family of six spread themselves out at a table for eight, leaving two empty seats at their table, but not together ( yes, it has happened).
You can choose:
escort cards which you pick these up at the entrance- they indicate your table assignment. You can still use placecards if you want to assign specific seating. Escort cards can also be combined with a favor if you choose.
a seating plan- which is posted at the entrance which can indicate table assignment only, or table and specific seat.
placecards only- not great for your guests, as they have to wander the whole room and look at each setting till they find their name
Post # 11
I think you should assign tables not not seats. If you don’t want to do a place card display, set up an easel with a seating chart.
I’ve been to 3 weddings where there wasn’t assigned tables. It was a free for all for 2 of them – several couples wanted to sit together so they’d drag chairs from the table next to them – leaving 5 chairs at one table and squeezing in 15 chairs at another. And there was one table that had 3 people sitting at it…..felt sorry for them.
One wedding, it worked out great and there were no problems at all.
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Just have escort cards and assign guests to tables not necessarily specific seats.
Post # 14
thanks bees for your input.
I see the difference between escort cards and place cards now. I don’t think I really like either, but escort cards were especially what I was talking about. I definitely don’t want to do individual seating arrangements (you sit at this spot), and in my post I meant am considering not doing table assignments.
A seating chart sounds more feasible. That eliminates individual paper with someone’s name on it, though I’d still have to number tables and figure out a way to display seating chart (though it sounds pretty easy). Question about that though…so the seating chart says name and table #. Then guests go to table and find a chair at the table (no assigned seat), correct? I remember going to a wedding they had a seating chart and a place card at the table with my name on it.
Also should have mentioned our dinner is going to be buffet style so no need to know who sits where for dinner service.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Skittles131: I don’t think you need to assign seats, but unless you have a LOT of empty chairs, it’s nice to assign tables. It sucks to go somewhere and have all your friends have already sat at one table, or get split up from your SO, etc.
We did names on old windows, which would fit in really well with your theme. It’s even cuter when you find those windows with the little squares of windows, but I couldn’t find any and I certainly wasn’t going to pay $50 each for them from Etsy!