Post # 1
So, my SO asked my dad last weekend for permission to propose to me. SO has spoken with a wholesale jeweler who is a friend of a friend, but has not been in to pick out the ring yet. (That said, I am looking for a round solitaire in a 4 prong setting on a plain band – 1.5-2 carat range and my ring size is a 6 so pretty standard – I don’t think it will take that long to prepare my ring!)
My entire family will be together in 2 weeks. It’s rare that we are all together and we have no idea the next time everyone will all be together – we may not even all be together at Thanksgiving or Christmas. We would love to be able to celebrate our engagement with my family, but my ring may not be ready in time. I told SO that I would be completely fine if he got me a placeholder ring, proposed with that, and then I can start wearing my real ring whenever it’s ready (plus, then I get two rings to love). He seems to think I will regret this later.
This is the placeholder ring I suggested. It’s a 1.5 mm band with a 1.5 x 3 mm baguette diamond from Catbird in Brooklyn. I see lots of girls around Brooklyn with super delicate rings like this as their actual engagement rings, and while I am sure I will wear my blingier ring most of the time – I would kind of love a delicate ring to wear around. What do you ladies think? Should I hold out for my “real” ring to be ready, or should we go for it so we can celebrate with my family?
This topic was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by BrooklynB.
Post # 2
BrooklynB: For me, the presence of family and friends would be more important than the actual ring itself. That being said, I love the look of this super delicate ring.
Post # 3
I personally would not do this. I’d rather my Fiance proposed without a ring and we celebrated anyway or that he waited until having the ring and celebrate with family at other times. You don’t need them all there at the same time, it’s an excuse to have even more celebrations. And your family are not going to see the “real” ring anyway, I think it’s money you could be putting towards the wedding.
Having said that, the ring is very pretty!
Post # 4
I think the ring is really pretty.. But, it is kind of even more money spent just to fill in for a short time. Why not ask the jeweler if he can rush your ring? Sometimes they can for a little more. That would be worth it.
If you have the extra money and don’t mind spending it, than go for the delicate ring.. Why not. It is pretty.. But, if you are watching funds, I would hold off.
Post # 5
BrooklynB: I think I’m with all of the above posters. If having the ring to celebrate your engagement with your family is a big deal then get the delicate band! Honestly, I think it’s gorgeous! But you can also celebrate without it IMO.
I don’t think you can go wrong either way. A delicate band might be nice for travel, etc. I’ve seen a lot of bees who have stand-in rings. 🙂 But I’d love to see in person pics if you get the delicate band! And of course, of the real ring.
Post # 6
I would just announce your engagement without a ring so you can celebrate with everyone, then you can send everyone pictures of your new ring when you get it. I’m sure they will understand if you tell them that your e-ring is still being made, but the two of you just couldn’t wait any longer to be engaged! You don’t need a ring to be engaged. And I think if your SO proposes with a placeholder ring, your “actual” e-ring may seem less special. But I’m sentimental about things like that; I would never upgrade my e-ring because it wouldn’t be my e-ring if it’s not the ring I got engaged with.
Post # 7
BrooklynB: any chance you could get that delicate ring now for the proposal and keep it as your wedding band? best of both worlds! 🙂
Post # 8
LaPetiote: I would be fine with a proposal with no ring too – he’s not! He insists that he has to give me something!
Post # 9
peaceoutshannon: I am thinking the same thing. I’d love a delicate band for travel, casual weekend days, volunteering, etc.
wrkbrk: I have a few friends who have a blingy wedding set and a simple band to wear times they don’t want to bring out all the bling – this ring would be perfect as a simple band (with just a tiny bit of flair). It seems so practical!