(Closed) Plan my life for me please. Thanks!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3728 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

So why would June be so bad for a honeymoon? And are you currently on the pill? I’d take a summer honeymoon, go off the pill and see what happens. 3 teachers close to me had their babies during the school year and it’ll be find if it happens that way. Not ideal, but it will work out fine. They all took the full 12 weeks. Also, a honeymoon pregnant isn’t the end of the world. That was the whole purpose of tge honeymoon. My Future Mother-In-Law took a trip to Hawaii 4 months pregnant and most of my friends took trips as well.

Post # 5
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am in the same exact boat as you, except I am not a teacher.  I am planning our honeymoon in October maybe November but we are going some place warm so that is ok.  I want to have fun on my honeymoon and that is important to me.  However, I did say I would stop the pill the day after we got back from our honeymoon and hopefully kids will happen soon after.

Post # 7
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have you talked to your doc about the kids thing? The timing might not be quite as tight as you are worried about. Plenty of women have healthy children in their 30s!

Post # 9
9079 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@peachacid:   If we don’t start trying to have kids soon, I probably won’t be able to have them.  Or worse, they won’t be healthy (maybe that’s not worse, I don’t know, but it’s still something to consider).

While I see your point, the mentality bothers me. It’s not like your uterus just turns to rotten putty after 30. Modern medicine is amazing — you can detect (and in some cases treat) issues in the womb, and women are able to have healthy babies at later ages. Also, keeping yourself in good health is key.

Post # 10
6255 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@peachacid:  Why don’t you go to the Jazz Fest this year, and then just take a small honeymoon at a bed and breakfast or something after the wedding? It’d probably be pretty nice to have a break from planning, right?

Post # 11
2870 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

woah woah woah, you are not too late. I didn’t get pregnant till I was 33, and she is perfectly healthy.

I know TONS of people who waited even longer and guess what, they have perfectly healthy kids.  Yes, risks for certain things go up as you age (particularly once you get past 35) but it isn’t an automatic sentence that you will have an unhealthy child. Just as it isnt a given that you will have a healthy child just because you are young.

Get maried, have a fun honeymoon then get cracking making those babies ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

June/July isn’t necessarily peak travel time everywhere. It just depends on where you want to go. Its considered the off season in the US and British Virgin Islands, which still have beautiful weather and is much cheaper than the rest of the year. Its signifantly cheaper to travel to most of the Caribean and Mexico during the summer months than the rest of the year.

Also, so mentioned that you want to go to Jazz Fest, why couldn’t you if you already have children? Can’t they stay home while you go on your “honeymoon”?

Post # 13
2870 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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@peachacid:  as far as the age gap is concerned. my YOUNGER sister has 2 kids already and her oldest is already 8.  My little one will not have many cousins to grow up with either, but she will make friends at school. I try to look at it this way, it’s just the way life worked out, I just didn’t meet the guy I wanted to have a family with till later in life. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@peachacid:  I’m not so concerned with your age reasonings ๐Ÿ™‚ but I AM very pro take a honeymoon after the wedding vs. wait a year.  We wanted to do a big 1-year honeymoon trip and other things took priority over the trip (unexpected expenses) and it made me wish we did a big trip for our official honeymoon.  I say: plan the honeymoon you can afford/make happen NOW – and then if you can do Jazz Fest as an early 1-year anniversary trip – go for it! ๐Ÿ™‚

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