Post # 1
How many engaged bees/planning before proposal bees out there ?
How many of you ladies started planning the big day before the actual proposal.. If any were you suprised when he asked?
I think it is outside of tradition but I love it … am planning before the actual proposal…. (we are having a destination wedding)
Let me hear those stories…
Post # 3
look at mrs. avocado’s posts…she had a similar situation and i think her proposal was still a surprise.
Post # 4
I am “planning” meaning, I am keeping a “dream” dress file and checking to see if I can find my top 4 favorites online on the used dress sites regularily.
We are too wanting a destination wedding, so I have scoped out different resorts, etc.
But I have not bought anything wedding related, or booked anything or even asked if dates are availble for when we want at the really awesome looking resorts.
To the OP…How far have you gone as far as planning?
Post # 5
we started looking at rings two years before the actual proposal, so I had been planning for a while. It helped tremendously because I knew NOTHING about weddings when we started ring shopping, and once we got engaged, I felt like I was starting on a good, knowledgeable foot. As to the proposal being a surprise, OMG, FH and I had talked about the wedding a ton, and both collaborated on the planning, and he pulled off the surprise of a lifetime. i had no idea. So I was definitely surprised, but I think it also helped me relax a little right after the engagement instead of jumping headfirst into planning mode.
Post # 6
I didn’t plan with him, I would look online at different things more often then I’d like to admit. But I made sure not to make any decisions b/c I didn’t know when he’d ask and I knew styles and trends would change.
Post # 7
That is good to do. I think arming yourself with knowledge is a good thing 🙂 Plus as EmilyMagnolia (adorable 6 toed kitty in your icon btw!!) it helps you not freak out post-engagement.
I personally don’t think my taste re: dress will change unless I get pregnant before I am planning to. 🙂
Post # 8
We actually had the photographer and reception venue booked before he proposed (but we didn’t tell anyone). 🙂 I was still completely surprised when he proposed – I think having it planned took a lot of the suspense off of it.
Post # 9
I agree with franks.katie.. we did the same thing. Our dream reception place is so hard to get, so we did it early! We also got our photographer earlier, and thank goodness because literally a month later, our little known photographer was featured on the cover of Southern Weddings magazine and raised their prices! I was glad we locked them in! My proposal was a complete surprise, because all I knew was he had to do it before Oct. 15, 2011.. but had no idea when!
Post # 10
thanks! I love me some thumbed kitties!
Post # 11
I guess it also depends on what kind of wedding you’re having.
We are planning a tiny party (like 10-15 pp max) destination wedding. Every resort does it these days so there are tons of choices. My friend is our DJ and my FH’s friend is our photographer, so we don’t feel much of a panic.
We are just going to do it at a ‘super’ resort that has different hotels on the same properties. My FH and I will stay in the most luxe one and then other guests can all decide on which one to stay at based on their price point preference. Plus this way, you can get some time to yourself! 🙂 That is really our only requirement
Post # 12
Thanks ladies …. I know that i will sureley be surprised when he asked.. for i dont have a clue when where or how he will and i think thats the best part. I dont know what he will say nothing at all about the proposal.. We always knew that we would get married.. We have been together for 4years and we have a beautiful 2yr old son… We always knew.. When he told me to start planning i was shocked i got all emotional i never expected it at all not for next year. I had it for 2013.
I love it .. lol … Good luck to everyone the bees thats getting married this year and those that will be proposed to …
Post # 14
I’m planning the wedding before he’s asked! We started seriously talking about getting married after our one year anniversery vacation to New Orleans. We are hoping to have two weddings, an intimate destination wedding in New Orleans and a larger wedding at home with all our friends and family.
Post # 16
@sherma25:me me! i knew a proposal was coming and started creeping WB’s a good month before it all went down. You’re not alone. Go buck…enjoy planning before the stress of planning creeps up on you 😉