(Closed) Planned before proposal

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

look at mrs. avocado’s posts…she had a similar situation and i think her proposal was still a surprise.

Post # 4
3135 posts
Sugar bee

I am “planning” meaning, I am keeping a “dream” dress file and checking to see if I can find my top 4 favorites online on the used dress sites regularily. 

We are too wanting a destination wedding, so I have scoped out different resorts, etc.

But I have not bought anything wedding related, or booked anything or even asked if dates are availble for when we want at the really awesome looking resorts.


To the OP…How far have you gone as far as planning?

Post # 5
26 posts

we started looking at rings two years before the actual proposal, so I had been planning for a while. It helped tremendously because I knew NOTHING about weddings when we started ring shopping, and once we got engaged, I felt like I was starting on a good, knowledgeable foot. As to the proposal being a surprise, OMG, FH and I had talked about the wedding a ton, and both collaborated on the planning, and he pulled off the surprise of a lifetime. i had no idea. So I was definitely surprised, but I think it also helped me relax a little right after the engagement instead of jumping headfirst into planning mode.

Post # 6
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I didn’t plan with him, I would look online at different things more often then I’d like to admit. But I made sure not to make any decisions b/c I didn’t know when he’d ask and I knew styles and trends would change.

Post # 7
3135 posts
Sugar bee

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That is good to do.  I think arming yourself with knowledge is a good thing πŸ™‚ Plus as EmilyMagnolia (adorable 6 toed kitty in your icon btw!!) it helps you not freak out post-engagement.

I personally don’t think my taste re: dress will change unless I get pregnant before I am planning to. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We actually had the photographer and reception venue booked before he proposed (but we didn’t tell anyone).  πŸ™‚  I was still completely surprised when he proposed – I think having it planned took a lot of the suspense off of it. 

Post # 9
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with franks.katie.. we did the same thing. Our dream reception place is so hard to get, so we did it early! We also got our photographer earlier, and thank goodness because literally a month later, our little known photographer was featured on the cover of Southern Weddings magazine and raised their prices! I was glad we locked them in! My proposal was a complete surprise, because all I knew was he had to do it before Oct. 15, 2011.. but had no idea when!

Post # 11
3135 posts
Sugar bee

I guess it also depends on what kind of wedding you’re having.

We are planning a tiny party (like 10-15 pp max) destination wedding.  Every resort does it these days so there are tons of choices.  My friend is our DJ and my FH’s friend is our photographer, so we don’t feel much of a panic.

We are just going to do it at a ‘super’ resort that has different hotels on the same properties.  My FH and I will stay in the most luxe one and then other guests can all decide on which one to stay at based on their price point preference.  Plus this way, you can get some time to yourself! πŸ™‚  That is really our only requirement

Post # 13
3600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I stealth planned.

Post # 14
2689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m planning the wedding before he’s asked! We started seriously talking about getting married after our one year anniversery vacation to New Orleans. We are hoping to have two weddings, an intimate destination wedding in New Orleans and a larger wedding at home with all our friends and family.

Post # 16
798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@sherma25:me me!  i knew a proposal was coming and started creeping WB’s a good month before it all went down.  You’re not alone.  Go buck…enjoy planning before the stress of planning creeps up on you πŸ˜‰

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