Planned Length of Your Engagement

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: How long do you plan to be engaged?
    1 day to 1 month : (1 votes)
    1 %
    1-4 months : (2 votes)
    3 %
    5-8 months : (11 votes)
    15 %
    8-12 months : (15 votes)
    20 %
    12- 18 months : (27 votes)
    36 %
    18- 24 months : (11 votes)
    15 %
    24-36 months : (6 votes)
    8 %
    More than 3 years : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 16
    122 posts
    Blushing bee

    We got engaged this month and are looking at dates in May/June 2019.

    Post # 17
    9756 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    We got engaged in January 2012, originally thinking we’d get married mid-2015 (a 3 and a half year engagement) to give us time for me to finish my studies and find more permanent work as well as us moving in together.

     I had mental health issues that made me unable to work for a time and were finally diagnosed. We are finally moving in together next week so realistically the wedding will probably be in mid-2019, giving us a 7 and a half year engagement.

    Post # 18
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    2 year engagement. I’m in no rush ….. just enjoying our engagement and being his “fiancé ” 😊

    Post # 19
    15 posts

    anabolina :  I think it helped that I dont have a strong vision of what my wedding would be like, so going into planning I was feeling pretty flexible. My mom is also very involved so a lot of the small decisions I’ve left with her- I trust her taste and it’s made the process move so much quicker with her help. We also went with a venue that does most of the work for you so we didn’t have a ton of logistics to plan. 


    Whatever length engagement you choose, I wish you the best of luck and all the happiness in the world in your marriage!! 

    Post # 20
    1395 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    I have a long 2.5 years! We won’t start doing anything until 7months in to that. Even then it’ll only be the venue and photographer before waiting a whole ‘nother year to do more.

    I do not like how long it’ll be, and it’ll definitely feel like it’s dragging along, but we didn’t have much choice due to logistics and financing the wedding we want. Oh well, we’ll survive! Gives us lots of time to plan~

    Post # 21
    613 posts
    Busy bee

    I got engaged in September and we’re getting married March of 2018, so a teeny bit over 6 months. I found that getting married in the off season has made planning a breeze. Every single one of our vendors had our date available.

    Post # 22
    484 posts
    Helper bee

    We didn’t have a planned length for our engagement.  It was open ended, and we both thought it might be a long time (a couple years or more) before we got married.  It turned out to be a 9 month engagement, and we had two small weddings in different cities.

    Post # 23
    1300 posts
    Bumble bee

    we got engaged december 18 and got married march 14. for us it was a trip to an office building followed by brunch for about 20 people at a local semi-swanky restaurant, so it didn’t require a lot of time to plan.

    Post # 24
    2 posts
    • Wedding: April 2019

    Engaged in November 2017, wedding date set for April 2019. I probably would have opted for a shorter engagement but my cousin is getting married in October 2018 and my mom told me to ‘let her have the whole year’ haha. I also don’t mind the extra time to save/plan, given that we’ll be dealing with a cross-country move this year.

    Post # 25
    1738 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    anabolina :  You know what they say about “best laid plans,” right? Planned to be engaged for 1.5 years, and have a big wedding in July 2018. Ended up being engaged for 4 months and having a tiny wedding in October 2017. I loved the short engagement though: Not enough time for outsiders to insert a bunch on unsolicited wedding / marriage advice and just enough time for us to truly cherish that special time.

    Post # 26
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Initially we had planned to get married in the winter so we could do a honeymoon over our winter break (we’re teachers) but family convinced us to do it over the summer. That made our engagement go from almost a year to sixth months…eeek. Somehow we pulled it off. I found wedding planning exhausting though; in many ways I’m glad it’s over! I wonder if I would have found it more fun if I had more time 🙂

    Post # 27
    419 posts
    Helper bee

    Mine ended up being exactly 6 months, 4 days! About 5 of those months were spent actively planning. We got engaged in March, then picked the date. I didn’t want a winter wedding, and neither of us wanted to wait until the next year! So we narrowed down dates in September and October, figured out which worked for our officiant and church, and picked the 24th of September. (The 17th was an option too, but might as well get an extra week to plan! And I don’t like the number 17 as much as 24. 😉

    Post # 28
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    We got enganged in August 2017 and were initially talking about wedding in August 2018 (our 10th anniversary) but finances got in the middle (plus I get anxiety thinking about wedding planning and the fuss lol) so now we moved it for August 2019, on Fiance birthday! So basically we are having a 2-year engagement! 

    Post # 29
    3832 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Ours was 14 months. Wanted to keep it around a year. There were months and months where we weren’t actually organising anything though, so you can definitely do it in less. The only issue would be if you have particular vendors in mind that are booked up or you want a dress that takes ages to get.

    Post # 30
    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    First talks were that we would get married Sept 2018 making it a 10 month engagement. I think it will be more likely spring of 2019 due to finances. 

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