- 8 years ago
Ok I don’t even know where to begin..
My boyfriend of 3 years gave me plenty of hints this year that this was going to be our year and that he wanted to settle down with me..
I had been waiting patiently until he suggested we go ring searching together so we went to my favourite jeweller twice or three times to try on several rings, get my finger size etc..and then the next day he was like “Maybe I should buy it tomorrow”…Inside I was screaming but I tried to remain calm and told him to do whatever he feels comfortable with. Really tried hard not to give him any pressure…
So to cut a long story short we went about a week and a half later to the same shop (this is a month ago) and witnessed him purchasing the ring. He hasn’t got it yet because it takes 3 weeks to resize and change the setting to a platinum. I’m presuming he will have the ring in about a week or two.
He keeps reminding me how happy he is with me, how much he loves me and how im the perfect girl for him..It makes me extremely happy to hear these things..
now the part I feel really iffy about is that…
WE ALREADY PLANNED 80% OF THE WEDDING….!!
We always knew where we wanted to get married so securing the venue (reception and ceremony at the same venue) wasn’t too hard. We decided on the date based on the availability of the venue – 20 Jan 2012. Then everything fell into place VERY smoothly and quickly. Because we only have 4 months till the wedding we pretty much had to start thinking straight away. I spent one day trying on dresses and made the purchase, I spent a few days online like for 12 solid hours brainstorming colour themes, cakes, celebrants, transport etc and so far have done the following:
1. booked venue
2. wedding stationery all printed (invitations,menu,table cards)
5. dress,veil,shoes ordered
6.Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses ordered
7.Hair and makeup stylist booked and having trial this week
8.Hotel accommodation for wedding night booked
9. Wedding favours all sorted out
10. celebrant confirmed – have 2-3 consultations ahead
All there is left to do is the music and the flowers which I’m researching at the moment..
I have only told very close friends about me getting married and haven’t changed the FB status or anything (which I’m dying to do….) and while i’m so happy he has been very supportive and positive about all of this, I feel slightly sad and empty without the ring. I feel like I have not gone through the whole surprise engagement- excitement-planning together process and we have done it the other way around. I’m very organised and hence only needed 2 weeks to plan all of the above and now we can relax a bit which I like but can’t get this feeling out of my head..
I bet no one has gone through the same thing where they actually planned the wedding (or parts of it) before the engagement. I feel engaged because I know I’m going to marry him no matter what, but feel weird that I didn’t get to do what all of the brides do. I understand how you may have been waiting for the ring after having gone ring shopping together but my story is totally on another level. I know the wait is going to be over in 2 weeks (I know hes dying to get the proposal out of the way to so that we both feel totally ENGAGED) but when I explain this situation to my close friends I feel slightly ashamed and sad….
I mean who else has their Wedding date confirmed on their profile and has the status Not yet Engaged? It really bugs me. Even if the wait will be over in 2 weeks, it bugs me right now and when I think about how I will remember our wedding planning process and the engagement that came AFTERWARDS, its not so exciting….:(
We had no choice but to start the planning before the official engagement because January is the only time we can have the wedding and we dont’ want to wait to long. But why am I feeling this way….I guess what I want to feel is the real excitement most brides get when their man proposes…an element of surprise. We both wanted marriage and knew it was the perfect time for us this year but ARRRGH i feel like ripping my hair out…I’m happy but sad at times and don’t know who to turn to..Should I tell this to my future fiancee?