Post # 1
I am currenly 4 weeks pregnant, the pregnancy was planned. My husband is over the moon happy, but I hate it. I am very depressed and thinking abortion. I am not ready to have this baby. Had anybody experience those emotions?
Post # 2
Ekat : Hi, if this was a planned pregnancy why are you suddenly feeling upset? Is this something you both agreed on or something your husband pushed you to do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
As you are 4 weeks pregnant I’m assuming you just found out. Give it a few days to sink in. It’s the most life-changing thing you can go through. I’m pro-choice as it’s your body but I don’t really understand wanting an abortion when you’ve been trying for a baby unless you weren’t sure and werr talked into trying or you have depression, anxiety etc.
Post # 4
You have a lot of time to become adjusted to the pregnancy and giving birth, so it’s ok and perfectly normal to not be quite ready this early. However, have you completely changed your mind about having this baby? What made you change your mind?
Post # 5
Ekat : Please make an appointment to speak with a therapist. It is best if you have someone objective/unbiased to speak openly to about your situation. No one can say whether your feelings are legitimate or not, but it is extremely important that before you embark on such a long and difficult (and rewarding!) journey like parenthood, you are sure you want a child(ren).
Also: I generally try to avoid referring to/bringing up previous posts but it seems you also suffered from cold feet/last minute regrets before your wedding (I’m assuming your husband is the same person from your post 3 years ago). Could this also be a case of extreme anxiety/nerves (again, I assume you resolved your concerns/issues if you went ahead with the wedding)? Alternatively, maybe you just don’t want to have a baby with your husband, because you still have doubts about your relationship?
Anyway, I still think seeking therapy is your best next move.
Post # 6
I’ve heard several women experience regrets when they first found out they were pregnant- realizing how much their lives would change, thinking it would take longer to get pregnant than it did. Like other posters, I’m wondering why you’re now feeling like you might not want to continue the pregnancy. Has something happened or changed?
Post # 7
Reading your past post.
Did you marry the man you didn’t want to marry three years ago? You even mentiond three years ago you didn’t want to have children with this man. Is it the same person?
Post # 8
slomotion : I was wondering this myself.
Post # 9
thank you for your replays. I was not pressured to have a baby, my husband was pationatly waiting for me to be ready. I thought I was ready, we are financialy stady. But the moment I got saw the lines on the test, I didn’t want it. I don’t feel happy, or exited. I need to schedule an appoinment to see a doctor, but I still don’t believe that.
Post # 10
As for my husband, it is the same person, and our relationship is great. He changed a lot since wedding for the better
Post # 11
I would give it some time. I am pro choice and believe that abortion is acceptable within reason. But this was a planned pregnancy. If I were you I would own my decision and follow through with bringing this child into the world.
Post # 12
Ekat : Like the other PPs, I need some more information. You say you “hate it.” What exactly do you hate? The idea of having a baby in general? Losing your independence? What it’s doing to your body? Have you discussed how upset/unhappy you are with your husband? Were you fully onboard with the idea of babies before or did your husband pressure you into it?
Post # 13
I hate that it does to my brain. I have been in a fog for the past couple of weeks, and it’s hard to operate day to day when you forget basic things. I don’t like kids in general with one exeption. My best friends baby. I feel in love with her once I saw her. I thought I will be the same way, once I know what i am pregnant, I will love the baby, but I don’t have any of those feelings.
I didn’t discuss it with my husband, he is too happy. He is worried about the daycare, and nany, and where to get a cribe, and how fast he can tell his parents.
Post # 15
Were you suffering with anxiety/depression before this? Talk to someone… there are meds that can help too.