- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
I can relate: I was terrified when I first found out I was pregnant. Granted, we weren’t trying, but it still took me several weeks to start to feel excited.
I definitely think it’s a good idea for you to talk to a therapist. There’s got to be a reason why you’re feeling so upset and hopefully a therapist can help get to that root issue.
I find out that I am pregnant yesterday, but my brain has beed clouded for a couple of weeks. I do suffer from anxiety. I take herbal suppliments once I have an attack. Thank you
I hate kids and refuse to have any because I don’t want the burden that comes with them. Sounds like to me you were pressured into making this decision and now you are regretting it.
Do you have a friend you can talk to besides internet strangers?
Our daughter was ‘planned’ but it was still a massive shock when the pregnancy test was positive and it did take several weeks/months for it to fully sink in/become excited about it. I think there is a massive part of ‘this is happening, it’s really happening’ that runs through your mind.
I do think you should speak to someone about this as your feelings may be a little bit more than just your run of the mill shock.
When you first become pregnant, your hormones go out of whack. This could be contributing to your intense emotions. Slow down and talk to your husband about this. You need to make this decision together. It is a big one.
Pregnancy hormones can cause MAJOR mood swings in the beginning (we did IVF and I love my husband and want to raise a child with him more than anything and yet I screamed and threatened to divorce him in week 7. I felt like an asshole after and apologized). Talk with your husband and a counselor and get the support you need because the next couple of weeks might be rough.
Take it easy Bee, and don’t make any rash decisions. Let your body start to adjust to hormones, you heart start to swell with the thought of a little person, and your brain figure out the logistics. It’ll be okay. Lean on your husband, he’s your person and will support you through the adjustment.
It’s totally normal to have these feelings. That sudden profound love might not happen right as you realize you’re pregnant, it also may not happen the moment you see their little face as they come out, created by you. It might not happen until they are a formed child running around twirling with you and suddenly you realize “I am so in love with my child”.
Why did you try to have a baby if you hate kids? Pregnancy brain is part of being pregnant. Did you not know the side effects or what a pregnancy would do to you physically, mentally, and emotionally before purposely getting pregnant? These are usually things people consider before deciding to conceive.
Thank you everybody. I took some ani-anxiety herbs yesterday, and it helped to to snap out of it. I feel much better today, and definatly don’t have such strong emotions anymore. Before I got pregnant, I know a lot about the physical, and emotional changes, but I never seen anybody going trough such a roller coaster.
Oh and do not take anything else without checking with a medical professional first. Some herbal remedies are not safe in pregnancy.
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