(Closed) planned to have court wedding and big wedding but decided to ditch the big one?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 1
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142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

i have always thought about having a decent regular wedding but turns out we may have to have a court wedding instead. i figured we would have the regular big wedding a few months to a year after. but…..after looking into a court wedding and seeing how small and intimate it is, not sure if its really needed to have a big one. and plus all the money! its too much! and my guy dosent have a big family like i do and i figure a big one would be weird if its mostly my family. and i would try to personalize the court wedding as much as possible and have close family and friends there. and have a small reception at a nice local place.

but my dad is really looking forward to a big wedding! any get together with family is always a joy for him! and there are things to a big wedding i would miss…father daughter dance, seeing lots of family and friends all together, fun,music, getting ready with my mom, lots of photos! music and personalizing our ceramony and all the details and taking time with it.

 with the court its cheaper and quicker and not a lot of attention (which we both dont mind cause were kinda private like that.) but i dont want to disappoint family by not including everyone! 

anyone out there deciding to ditch their big day for the small one? but still figured a way to make extended family and friends included?

i thought about video taping it and sending it to people and having a bbq a few months after even… but its just not the same…ugh! need advice thanks 😀

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Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I saw your comment on my slideshow and wedding at riverview. Was thinking that maybe you could contact them about just having your ceremony there?? Do you have a family member with a rather large back yard?  maybe you can have something with your family there? That way you get all those things you think you’d missout on and all of your family and friends? Are your parents contributing?

We were similar to your situation.. we first wanted to go away with about 20 people but I didnt want to miss out on the big party. so we kept it around 80, mostly my family (he had about 14 family members there) but it was worth it to us.

 

Post # 4
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841 posts
Busy bee

My Fiance and I just decided to ditch the huge wedding ’cause it isn’t ‘us’. I do think it would be cool to have a get together after so you both can show your pictures etc. That way everyone close to you can feel included- without breaking the bank! >.<

Post # 5
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We ditched the garden wedding we planned because of cost. It just seemed crazy to spend $400 to reserve a garden just for a 30 minute ceremony! plus, the courthouse has some beautiful trees so we will get the same feel 🙂

When we mentioned a courthouse wedding to our parents they were %100 on board! Turns out my FI’s parents eloped and mine just ran to the pastors house and got hitched. It’s practically a tradition!XD It’s my friends that keep encouraging us to have a bigger better wedding a year later, but I think they just want an excuse to party

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