- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2017
Hey bees, I’m facing an odd situation with my wedding planner. She’s a family friend – related to Fi’s mom.
She’s been our planner for over a year now, but charged us a LOW amount because we’re family. It’s similiar cost to a week-of rate I’m guessing.
To be honest, she’s been on and off with availability — I’ve done a ton of planning myself. I never had much of an issue if at all because I know the great deal we were getting, and she’s moreso been a guide for the planning plus helpful when I needed someone other than me to be strong with a vendor, review contracts.
We’re less than 2 months away from the wedding, and we’ve been working out room blocks at the hotel/venue.
We initially planned the rehearsal dinner for Saturday, with wedding being Sunday. Both MILs agreed they’d like it Friday night instead to make the night before less crazy.
My planner has been aware of all of this… but emailed me today saying she’s realized she’ll need to be around 3 nights instead of originally 2, and the hotel/venue is more expensive than she planned. She’s driving a few hours to get to our wedding destination, so she didn’t want to drive down for the rehearsal, drive back Saturday, then come back again Sunday.
So.. the predicament is she’s asking for more money. She says our original rate with her was fine, but with the hotel expenses she’s in the red.
The issues I’m dealing with are
– it is happening now, an unexpected expense for me before the wedding and I’m pretty tight with budget as is
– also its that I’ve been the one who had a contract with her/paid deposit, but my MILs were the ones who pushed to make it a 3-day wedding weekend
– since she’s from my Fi’s family not just business, its even more awkward for me.
I feel torn because I am a bit upset/surprised with the info she’s brought to me… but I’m realistic also, and can see why she’s bringing this up – she didn’t charge us a lot to begin with and if she’s in the red, its like she made nothing from the event I guess.
I’m not sure if its on me to foot this new expense or if its worth going to Fi’s family or my mom about helping cover costs. I feel super awkward and don’t want to cause any problems with family especially so close to the big day.
Something I realized that could be done as an option for her is offering her a room for a night or two at Fi’s mom’s house — she’s got a guest room that I don’t believe would be used the wedding weekend mainly bc she doesn’t want a ton of people at the house ahead of wedding.. but since planner is family, this could be a nice option.