(Closed) Planner asking for more money

posted 4 years ago in Money
Post # 16
363 posts
Helper bee

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sunshadebride :  regardless of who pays I think planner needs to be paid more for additional night. She’s investing her time plus it costs her extra.

Post # 17
7567 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

The planner needs to be paid for the aditional night. It’s not her fault you guys changed the plan and moved the rehearsal up a day. If she’s the planner, and responsible for executing the wedding on Sunday, she absolutely needs to be there for the rehearsal on Friday. Period.

I also do not think it’s appropriate to offer her a room at your MIL’s. It doesn’t matter if she’s a family friend or not, you’ve hired her to work your wedding.

Post # 20
2176 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think that your new plan of having the rehearsal Sat afternoon is much better — to be honest with the wedding on sunday I am sure most of your bridal party is already taking monday off from work. To ask them to take another day off (friday) to travel down and be there in time for a rehearsal is a bit over kill

the actual rehearsal usually only takes a little bit of time – its more dinner etc that takes more time. if you have a lot of additional family in town that night you could always do more of an open house/welcome dinner than a strictly rehearsal dinner

Post # 21
7987 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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sunshadebride :  Yeah! This is what we are doing (so IDK why i didnt think of it till after i wrote my post LOL). My Future In-Laws want to host their own ‘welcome’ party too, so we are doing our rehearsal in the early afternoon, serving food/drinks, and then everyone else has the evening off. (its also probably cheaper to host a lunch than a dinner anyways, if that was any consideration!)

Post # 22
1155 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I agree with all of the advice and the direction you’re taking. If the moms are going to dictate your plans, they should pay for any cost increases. Otherwise, I would let them know that it needs to be on Saturday due to budget constraints.

and I agree with another bee who mentioned that you’re basically asking your wedding party to take two days off work. If I were in your wedding party, I would be annoyed by the extra hotel night on top of two missed days of work. Just something to consider.

Post # 23
5996 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

How much more money is she asking for? I think it’s fair to pay for her extra hotel stay and gas. 

Post # 26
9254 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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sunshadebride :  Or what if you do the rehearsal Saturday afternoon/evening and just invite the bridal party along to the family dinner? Lots of people combine the rehearsal dinner with a get-together for out-of-town guests. That way, you’d only have to arrange one event instead of 2, and your bridal party would get the first half of their day back. 

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