Post # 1
I am the Maid/Matron of Honor for a wedding this summer in Paris in August, and I’m trying to figure out how to plan everything but I have no idea where to start…
The majority of guests are going to be coming from the US, so I think the party will have to be the day before the wedding, which seems to leave out any kind of drinking/late night party, so would just a spa day be fun?? And how much can I reasonably expect people to be willing to spend since they’re already flying there at the most expensive time of the year and spending god knows how much on hotels…
Also, I speak French so I can call and make reservations, but does anyone know if there is anything like Yelp that could give me an idea of which spas were nice vs tourist trap? I’d ask the bride (she lives there) but I really want it to be a surprise!
Any thoughts/help is appreciated!
ETA Since it is in Paris and not a huge wedding, should I invite all of her friends (15-20 people) or just the bridesmaids? And what about the moms?
Post # 3
I would first check with the bride and find out if she’s ok with having it the day before and also what she wants to do And who she wants to invite. Since everyone is traveling and spending so much money, she may not want another party.
It’s so thoughtful of you to plan the party for her, but as a bride I probably would have declined having a party the day before. We had SO much going on (nail appointments, picking up guests flying in, rehersal, etc) that the days leading up to it were just chaos.
Post # 4
@Bostongrl25: I know that she definitely wants to do something, but the problem is that I’m not sure she’s realistic with the timing… I think she is hoping that everyone will come really early (like a week early) and that we’d have time to have the classic going out in a limo and barhopping kind of party…
For my wedding, which was also a destination wedding for most everyone, we had a spa day (with my mom which I really liked) which included nails and things and a nice dinner, and then that night they took me out and wanted me to do shots and things, but since it was the night before my wedding it almost stressed me out more than anything because I didn’t want to be a party pooper (didn’t really want to drink anything, wanted to go to bed early)…
Ideally we’d all be able to get together earlier (if not in the week, in the year) but I just don’t think that’s possible…
Post # 5
@lazybee123: Hmm, thats a tough one. Then my advice would be to get a guest list from her and find out from them when everyone will be arriving in town. If most everyone will be there a few days early, then maybe it will be possible to have a traditional bachelorette? I would start with a group email or evite to figure out plans from there. Good luck! 🙂