Post # 1
My SO and I are getting engaged in the next few months (he has the ring but both have extremely busy schedules for the next month or so) and I know he has now picked the date and started planning but other than that it will be a surprise. Anyway we had always talked about being engaged for a year or two before marrying but now we both have relatives who are quite unwell and it’s led me to think about getting married sooner to ensure they will be there to see our special day. My question is has anyone actually planned a wedding for over 100 guests in a short period of time? How did it work with venues/ caterers? Did it turn out how you imagined?
Thank you in advance!
Post # 2
What is a short period of time for you? I’m about to get married and our engagement will be 8 months long. Our wedding will have 150 guests. I spent all of my free time outside of work planning. It’s stressful but possible! As long as your committed to focusing all of your time on planning a big wedding, you should be good! And be decisive! Mine and my fiancé’s indecisiveness is what has been putting us behind.
Post # 3
It can definitely be done, though depending on how competitive your area is you might not get your first choice of date, venue or vendors.
My brother and sil planned a wedding for 85 people in 3 months. They did it at a venue that pretty much covered all of the logistics so they just had to worry about the DJ, photographer and flowers. Because they were booking so close to the date they actually had leverage in negotiating good prices with the venue/vendors as they would have otherwise been not booked for that day.
Some family members and friends weren’t able to make it because of the short notice, though.
Post # 4
thank you for replying. I was definitely considering anything from a few months to a year. It’s great to hear that it is possible too!
that is definitely one of my concerns that family members/ friends wouldn’t be able to make it.
I’ve only really had one experience of a wedding planned in a few months and it wasn’t the best (not because they planned it quickly but because of their venue choice/food/music etc) so it’s nice to hear that it could be possible.
Post # 5
I also second on not expecting to get the date you want and also possibly other things depending on your area. My fiancé and I ended up not getting the date we wanted and also a lot of other things that I never realized I really wanted until planning. But that was because there was less time to save money and because I found ideas I fell in love with when it was too far down the road of planning. But it has taught me to be very open and focus more on the idea of getting married and less on the more material side of things which is good 🙂 So my advice is to stay completely open.
I also recommend tackling the big things right away, like the venue, your dress, dj, food, invitations and anything else that needs to be booked ahead of time. My fiancé had a hard time realizing that most vendors were already booked when we began planning, but we also live in a competitive area.
Post # 6
It can definitely be done, but it just depends on a few factors:
Vendors – A lot of major vendors (venue, catering, photographer) book at least a year out especially if you live in an area that’s popular for weddings.
Wedding dress – If you want a typical wedding dress you usually need about 6 months as well to have it made. There are alternatives though most likely.
Out of Town Guests – 6 months also gives you lots of time to send save the dates to out of town guests and for them to book vacation and accommodation
Everything else can really be handled in 3-4 months if you’re really on the ball. The quickly planned wedding that you went to was probably sub par because they couldn’t secure a good caterer and venue – not necessarily due to their ability to plan and organize quickly.
Post # 7
i planned our wedding for 120 people in 7 months. it was an elegant, cocktail attire saturday night affair. i could have planned it in 4 months with no problem.
the less people you involve the better. i had zero stress when planning. everything went smoothly.
Post # 8
Immediately start looking at venues. First of all they fill up quickly, My fiance and I are trying to get married in like 8-9mos but are finding open venues that seat more than 300 people are just not out there wihtout paying an arm and a leg. If you can find a venue, everything else can go off of that.
Post # 9
Now we are having a big reception and renewal of vows this coming Saturday at one of the best restauraunts in the world. We asked in March if it would be possible and they happened to have this Saturday left so we signed a contract and got everything together in four months. In this case we had a very generous budget so we didnt have to search and compare particularly much. It also helped that by virtue of this venue being so extraordinary, they provide just about everything except flowers and music. I will say in typical fashion DH and I waited until last minute to order our clothes and barely got our nice outfits together and altered- we are picking them up tomorrow after recieving and dropping them off Thursday. Its definitely possible but I would start drawin up a budget now. I feel like how my experience was, going very small budget or very large budget is going to be the easiest to plan quickly
Post # 10
My FH and I talked about our engagement and wedding before being engaged also. Our wedding date is set for almost exactly a year from today (we booked it last week) and we have over 200 guests. If you are a planner and enjoy planning it there will be no issue. We already have the venue, the photographer, and teams of friends to help us put it all together! Also, think of hiring a wedding planner if that is in your budget!
Post # 11
How short are you talking? I’m about halfway through my ten-month engagement and honestly I pretty much planned everything in the first month. We had to be slightly flexible with the date (we wanted December but our venue was only available in January) but other than that no issues. I will say that something that made planning very easy was the fact that our venue has an in-house caterer. We didn’t have to shop around and compare caterers.
I went dress shopping the weekend after we booked the venue. It will take six months for my dress to arrive, and then alterations after that. If the dress is important to you, just make sure you allow enough time for that.
10 months is more than enough time; I’ve been twiddling my fingers all summer and won’t have any wedding-related things to do until October/November when we finalize plans with our vendors and have my dress fittings.
Post # 12
Thank you all so much for your advice! Me and SO have decided that the first thing we will do is book the Church we have decided on and then the venue so I suppose it will depend on the availability.
I’m definitely a planner so I imagine getting everything sorted as soon as possible anyway haha.
I’m just ready to marry the man I want to spend the rest of my life with so I’d consider just getting a dress off the rack and then getting it altered. We’ll see though!
Post # 13
Ah it cut off half my response!
The first half should say:
DH and I eloped by hiking on top of a mountain with just our friend an officiant and his wife the witness. He proposed in August and we did the deed only two months later. Since we planned on eloping and I had always wanted a fall wedding, there was no reason to wait another year! It cost nothing other than ordering a dress and dinner at the brewery for four later on!
Post # 14
Im sure you will figure it all out and you will have a lovely wedding! Ive gotten two off the rack (rather off the internet) dresses so far and had a wonderful experience with both Spell bridal and BHLDN. They both shipped so quickly and the quality was amazing on both. ALso the price points for both were very reasonable.
Post # 15
that sounds perfect. I definitely wish eloping was a thing in the UK! I’d definitely be happy to buy online. The only thing that puts me off is that because I’ve never worn a wedding dress I have no clue what would look good!