Planning a bridal shower in Santa Clara County/San Jose area! PLEASE HELP!

posted 2 weeks ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Honestly, is an engagement party plus a bridal shower really necessary? With all the details you provided, It seems like a huge ask from the bride, especially because neither you or the other bridesmaid can really afford it. I would cancel the engagement party and do the bridal shower at the park. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper

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@aslanbrooke:  You are hosting all of these events? Sweetie, I hate to break it to you but you are being taken advantage of and used, big time.

It’s not up to the bride to tell you what kind of “experience” she wants. That is inappropriate and so rude. All pre-wedding events are entirely optional. It’s up anyone interested in hosting to offer, not her to volunteer you. 

I’d back out of the shower. Seriously. None of this is reasonable and you can’t easily afford it. Also, there’s no way I’d go to an indoor restaurant right now regardless of what’s open or allowed. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Wow. Just because the bride “really wants all 3” doesn’t obligate you to do them all. But you seem okay with this somehow, so perhaps you could ask her mother and her future mother-in-law to help with locating an acceptable venue for the bridal shower and pitching in some cash as well? This should not be all on you. I agree that you are being taken advantage of.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Why not host it at her mother’s house and order gluten free finger food and a cake?

That being said, the bride is a jerk.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Have it at the bride’s mom’s house and maybe have a little reality check with the bride. Her expectations are not realistic at all.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Sorry but I don’t hardly see how this is going to happen and I can’t believe the other bridesmaid just had a c section.  I could only do light walking around the house until about 4 weeks post c section plus she will have a newborn to take care of. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

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@zl27:    Dear z127, your response is right on the money, and the only addition I might make would be to put the word “total” in between the words “a” and “jerk”.

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