(Closed) Planning a no-alcohol/no-peenie-headwear bachelorette party

posted 11 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
1998 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

MJ, I would love to share with you about mine, because I think it’s exactly the kind of thing you’re looking for … may have to PM you later.

Post # 18
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was underage when I was my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor and we did a weekend at a friend’s waterfront house with margaritas, but the main activity was a scrapbooking party.  Everyone was asked in advance to bring photos of them and my sister over the years and we all contributed a page.  (Not exactly adventurous, but we added the risque factor with our lingerie theme.)  

Post # 19
36 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

My maids thew me an awesome party two weekends ago. We went to the beach and basically just had a great girls weekend. The highlight though was when each of my friends stood up and pulled out a scrapbook page they put together of memories that the two of us shared. Then they pulled together a quiz of a bunch of random questions that I had to answer about each maid – and I had to guess who was who. It was a great and special night – so don’t worry, you can definitely throw a non-alcoholic all ages appropriate bachelorette party! 

Post # 20
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009 - University of Michigan Union

I wouldn’t do a peenie cake, maybe you could do one with a cute Panty motif if you will be giving her lingerie. Still sassy, but without the male anatomy. 🙂 Or a tree with their initials… something romantic.

For drinks, try punch! I have a good recipe for one that has raspberry sherbert in it, it is really yummy! You could also do a mock champagne punch- white grape juice and gingerale.  

Post # 21
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with taffy, I don’t think a peenie cake would be a good idea. Wait, is her mom and sister going to be at this too? If so, definitely no peenie cake 😉

Post # 22
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I love the idea of slumber party with lots of chick flicks/bride movies. And no peenie cake!

Post # 23
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Don’t know if you’re still looking for ideas, but I have a friend who sounds exactly like yours.  She was actually PETRIFIED of her bachelorette party cause she was scared that her BM’s would plan something R-rated for her!  Instead, they planned a scavenger hunt for her that took her all over her (small) hometown.  They chose places that were meaningful to their friendships with her (ie. where we used to get ice cream after school in jr. high, etc.) and places that were meaningful to her and her Fiance.  One Bridesmaid or Best Man went ahead and got all the necessary store clerks, etc. involved, which was awesome.  It turned out really great, and the bride felt really special and reminded of a lot of great times in her life.  Afterwards, they had chocolate fondue.  Just though I’d offer this suggestion…

Post # 25
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

my bridesmaids took me out and did a scavenger hunt, which wasn’t really my favorite thing.  But aftewards we came back had goodies, opened my gifts and we watched 3 wedding chick flicks!  awesome.

Post # 26
144 posts
Blushing bee

LOVE the scrapbook idea!

The mani-pedi idea sounds great, too.  I want to go to one right now!

How about a hen party brunch or luncheon?  No need to drink anything stronger than mimosas.

A public venue keeps everything PG instead of R.

I, too, find off-color remarks and even lingerie things distasteful for a wedding event.  (I LOVE hanging out and going dancing with gay guys so I’m not a prude.)  I’m not religious – I just think wedding and pre-wedding events are not the place for such things.


Post # 27
1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am by no means religious (spiritul, but not religious). I drink, I swear,  and I hate the usual R & X rated bach. parties. I LOVE the idea of having an at-home party with a personal chef and/or manis & pedis. After marriage, the opportunities to do a girls slumber party are quite rare, so she might really enjoy this. I don’t think lingerie would offend her if the gifts were opened at a private home and not in public.


Post # 28
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I sound a lot like your friend. I already told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I don’t want any of the typical b-party stuff…and I am scared she won’t listen.

From that perspective then, I would ask you to just be entirely sure about the cake. I agree it can be fun to make friends squirm, but just be sure if you want to make her feel like that in relation to wedding festivities. I think I will be upset if my Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t respect my comfort level and has something that I truely do not care for.

That said, you know your friend way better than I do of course, so if you think it’s a risk she would enjoy, go for it. I am thinking that I want to go to a fondue restaurant for my dinner and then maybe to a jazz or comedy club. I still want the bachelorette sash, tiara, etc, just not with male genitalia.

Additionally, I think it’s worth noting that I am all for the lingerie portion of the evening, so long as they’re a little more classy and a little less trashy…so that the lingerie is still more of my style. But of course I want something pretty to wear for the husband once we’re married!

You’re a great friend for being so considerate of what she wants and what she’ll enjoy! I am sure whatever you do will be great.

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