- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
The title says it all: I’m Maid/Matron of Honor and planning my best friend’s shower. Her mom is helping me a little bit, but the bulk is mostly on me and I don’t even know where to begin! I have decided on a theme and I know that it will be a couple’s shower (she’s having a women only shower with the older ladies thrown by her Aunt), but I need help in how to orchastrate it all!
Question 1: How many guests? She’s invited 200+ to the wedding, but I certainly don’t anticipate that I have to host a 200 person shower…right? I have asked her for a guest list, but I’m assuming I’ll need to narrow it down. Obviously the women who are invited to her Aunt’s shower I won’t invite to this one, it’s mostly going to be us younger girls (and guys). Since it’s a couple’s shower should I invite all of the groom’s men as well? Or do I invite girls and allow them to bring a guest? Should I send an invite out to out of town guests who won’t be able to make the shower just to be polite?
Question 2: Do the invitations have to be printed and snail mailed? Okay! Probably a stupid question, I know. I’m just trying to keep things cheap and the bride invited everyone to the rehearsal dinner via FB, so…can I get away with using FB for the shower as well? Probably not, I know, don’t hate me for asking!
Question 3: How far in advanced do I need to send invites? Shower is April 20, so I’m assuming they need to go out soon.
Question 4: Wording on invites? I’m doing most of the planning and dictating, I’ve asked her other BMs (she has 8 other than me) for help but only one has really jumped to do so. Is it terribly rude for me to list my name and the other BMs name and leave out the others? Or do I have to list everyone even if they’re not helpful at all? I don’t want to step on any one’s toes.
Question 5: Well, 4 is really all I can think of right now, but I wanted an opening to ask the other questions that will surely come to mind as I start reading your answers Thanks!