Post # 1
Not for the groom, but for our friends and family.
Here’s the background: we have both been married and divorced twice. He is 51, I am 38.
I hold the opinion that there is no REAL reason for us to get married. We won’t be having children together (though between us we have 10!) and for us it doesn’t prove anything to each other. Committment is committment and all that jazz.
This said, our family and friends would LOVE for us to get married and there are legal reasons to actually be married. We aren’t opposed to the idea and he has said he would marry me when I decide I want to. I’m the lone hold out. 🙂
Every year, on the same weekend in August friends of ours hold a Woodstock-type event in upstate New York. We all bring our campers and tents, our kids and our dogs. There is a big “main tent” set up with a kitchen, ice cream machine, deep fryer etc. It’s on a huge farm so the site is set up on a hill overlooking beautiful rolling fields and you can see for miles! We spend each day playing in the river or hiking in the woods. There are games of horse shoes, corn hole, volley ball. We fly kites; eat, drink and be merry. 🙂
There is a bonfire every night with s’mores. They have a band on Friday night, some sort of entertainment Saturday night and a HUGE (we’re talking $15,000) firework show and a pig roast on Saturday night.
I was thinking of asking this friend if we could hold a surprise wedding during the weekend. Another friend of ours is ordained and could marry us. We wouldn’t tell anyone because we want to keep it REALLY casual. No gifts. No attendants. No hub bub.
I figure the kids can pass out invitations a few hours before we have the ceremony and then carry on with the rest of the weekend. How exactly to say, “surprise! we’re getting married in 2 hours!” has yet to be determined but something along those lines.
Post # 3
I think that’s really cute, why not! I would tell the kids and talk to them about it but I’d say no one else needs to know and it’s fun.
Post # 5
That sounds amazing!! Bonfire plus fireworks at your wedding? Incredible.
Post # 6
I think that’s an amazing and I adore it. What a special thing! The only thing you might want to consider (maybe you did) is that some people might not make the extra to come if they have other plans or whatnot, not knowing it’s your wedding, then be really sad that they missed it when they find out.
Post # 7
I have thought about people not coming because of prior commitments etc. We would give family the head’s up as to what’s going on and invite them up for just the wedding day. The day of the fireworks people turn up all over the place! LOL The whole TOWN shows up, its that big of a deal. So other people staying there wouldn’t be privy to why people were showing up just for the pig roast/fireworks.
Now that I’m thinking about it, its pretty exciting. Its also entirely our style!!
Post # 8
Have you seen ‘The 5 Year Engagement’? The scene at the end? I don’t want to spoil it for you or anybody, but I really think you should watch it 😉 It’s relevant!
Post # 9
@SoggyGranola: What a great idea! I think you should do it.
Post # 10
I know someone who did something very similar, and I think it’s a really cute idea. If you can make it work, you absolutely should do this.
Post # 11
This is such a great idea! Go for it!!
Post # 12
I think it’s great! Just make sure it’s ok with the friend – hopefully they won’t mind accidently/kinda/sorta hosting your wedding/reception. I’m sure they won’t care (it sounds like an amazing weekend) I would just double check. Maybe you could offer to cover the cost of like wine/champagne for everyone or something along those lines.
Post # 13
I think it’s a bad idea. What if people deprioritized the occasion because they thought it was just an engagement party but may may have come if they knew it was a wedding?