- 4 years ago
2013 was the big engagment boom..
there were 3 of us that got engaged in that year and we are all getting married at the same venue. we were the last couple to get engaged and we will be the 2nd couple to get married.
here’s the deal..
our colors are navy blue and blush. navy blue is another one of the future brides colors – let’s call her bride #1. my bridesmaids won’t be wearing navy blue, but hers will. i will just have navy blue accents for decorations. we share the same venue and ballroom. there has been no drama here. she actually recommended it to us before we were even engaged. we both really couldn’t care less what overlaps between our weddings, we are just both happy for each other. she will be getting married first. our weddings are 4 months apart and will have less than 10 overlapping guests – for reference.
then there’s bride #2 who was the second to get engaged (she got engaged before us) and has been the most difficult to deal with. at first i was trying to be very accomodating when i started wedding planning, but after a while i just got tired of it. she is getting married at the same venue but in a different ballroom. she found this venue because i recommended it to her (she isn’t friends with bride #1). when we booked the venue three months later, she flipped out. i didn’t really understand it, but i didn’t say anything and just assured her that her room was nicer and our weddings will be different. our weddings are 5 months apart (mine will be first) and we will have less than 15 overlapping guests – for reference. so in addition to the venue drama, there was wedding color, wedding invitation, wedding lodging, wedding flowers.. basically everything wedding related drama. one of her accent colors is gold and originally i wanted gold too but i changed it to blush to avoid drama. we picked out our wedding invitation last month which is light blue and taupe and she nearly flipped again because it was too close to her tiffany color. it is seriously nothing like it though. you can’t call dibs on every shade of blue! i’m keeping my invitation choice bc i’m in love with them. then she got upset that i chose the florist she was going to choose. seriously? i didn’t even know who you were going to pick, i went off of reviews online. to avoid more drama i just changed florists to one my future aunt recommended.. whatever. now she’s upset we are going to use the same hotel for lodging. we have the same venue.. there are really only two choices and the other one is super old! i’m just getting so tried of this. it’s always something. i’ve just stopped telling her anything about our wedding, but she still keeps texting me asking me about it. i just can’t take it anymore.
i have friends at completely opposite ends of the spectrum – bride #1 so chill about all wedding planning and bride #2 who has been up my a** about everything i pick.
has anyone else has to deal with a similar situation?