Post # 1
I got engaged right before Christmas 2008 and we got officially married in January 2009. We’ve been together for over 3 years and we had been talking about it, so we just did it. We are planning the actual ceremony and reception in July 2010 back home with all of our friends and family.
However, I might be pregnant and I’m thinking of whether or not we should even have the wedding.
Should we just forget it, and save money for this baby and a house
should we go ahead and have the wedding anyway?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
You don’t seem very attached to the wedding. Are you? If you are, I’d say have it. Enjoy it. have an awesome time!!
But it seems like maybe you’re not (since you’re already married). if you were going to have a wedding for the benefit of friends and family, maybe you should reconsider and think about your bigger priorities (baby and house). That’s what I would do. (Says the bee who’s not having a wedding. )
Oh and CONGRATULATIONS!
Post # 4
It’s up to you when to have the wedding..but since you’re both already legally married, I’d call it a vow renewal!
You could have it AT YOUR NEW HOUSE! How’s that for fun and saving money(there are some beautiful backyard weddings that are fabulous)? Or plan a family vacation with all your friends and family invited and have a destination wedding/vow renewal?
Only you both know what’s do-able with your budget and life. A wedding is just one day..and you have some very creative bees here buzzing around here who could help you INCORPORATE that wedding/vow renewal right in without maybe busting the budget.
The most important thing is you and your H and the ? of whether you’re both now off on the exciting journey of becoming parents!
Being a parent is the greatest job in the world! My son is the light of my life. 🙂
If it were me, I’d save for the baby and house..and after life settled down, I’d have a lovely backyard ceremony with family and friends at our new home, but have flowers and a nice bbq or buffet and BLEND the best of both worlds..you have a new life together and possibly be bringing a new LIFE into the world too!
Many hugs and congratulations!
Post # 5
Hmmmm, if you are pregnant, why not have a family celebration instead of a wedding? You and the hubs and the baby can get dressed up in your best clothes, and have a big party to celebrate your life. See if you could have it at someones house, and I’m sure your friends and family will be all over helping with food and decorations, pretty much anything you want.
That way, you can celebrate your marriage as well as your new family at the same time
Post # 6
I agree with MrsSl82br. Family celebration!! You can still wear a beautiful white dress if you want because it is celebrating your marriage, and your new family! And because its unothrodox – you can do WHATEVER you want!! 🙂
Post # 7
Congrats! HAve the wedding if you really really want it, but scale back a little bit so you can splurge on your baby a little bit. You KNOW you are going to want to!!! And then you won’t feel bad!
I love the idea of waiting and having a HUGE celebration! Welcome home baby, happy new house, everything all rolled into one! Decorate with white lights, have a band, catered food….ooo it sounds so lovely
Post # 8
Congrats! I think a celebration would still be nice but more along the lines of a homey, kid-friendly reception and less about a fancy wedding with an actual ceremony.
Post # 9
I agree with more a backyard party than a wedding. And call it a celebration in honor of you marriage or wedding, not a wedding (because you are already married)
And if you are pregnant–Congratulations! That’s an exciting time.