(Closed) Planning a wedding BUT….isn’t ENGAGED yet!

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2181 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Welcome to the boards! 

I think it’s totally fine to begin planning without a ring, as long as you’re both on board! I know there are plenty of bees around here who are planning their weddings and haven’t gotten an official proposal yet!

Post # 4
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Its a great idea so you get a sense of what you want but like Amanda said as long as your both on board dont rush him to propose…. Happy planning : )

Post # 5
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh hello my situation exactly! ๐Ÿ™‚ We have set our date, my main suggestion is to make sure he is included, when we booked our venue he came with me. At first I was really aprehensive about it because I thought without a “typical” proposal that it wasn’t official. When I talked to him about it he said that him setting a date with me was him making that commitment to me. I felt so much more at ease after that and we have now booked the ceremony, reception, florist and photographer! ๐Ÿ™‚ I know some people may think it’s not “normal” but I have a happy and healthy relationship WITHOUT insane amounts of debt, so in my opinion, we win! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

If you can start saving for it now. start saving for it!!

Post # 7
712 posts
Busy bee

I’m in the same boat.. Check the “waiting” board for kindred spirits ๐Ÿ™‚

I’ve booked a venue for October and am not engaged yet.

Post # 9
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

definately planning is okay – so many bees on here do, and i know i am included in that!

if you have a date set out, i would say go ahead and put deposits down. you don’t want to miss out of what you love because you were too late…

Post # 10
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was going to say… ask him! I asked my fiance by explaining how quickly things like venue and photographer get snatched up, and asked him if it would be ok with him to book just those couple of things while we can, even though we weren’t engaged yet. He said ok! Then I told him to be prepared to either put down the down payment ourselves or prove to at least my father that he was in the process of getting the ring. This not only showed me he was serious, but it showed my parents as well. That way, we all felt ok with going forward without the ring.

Have fun!!!

Post # 11
656 posts
Busy bee

I am in the same boat.. We are thinking memorial weekend next year.. I have my dress already and I am looking at venues. He hasnt popped the question yet though.. Youre not alone!

Post # 12
3579 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I did it!

We booked the venue and the photographer before the “official proposal” and also had created a budget, contacted all other vendors, and created a guest list.

As long as you two are both involved in the planning I say go for it! You are basically engaged, as you have made the decision to get married, you are just waiting for a proposal.

Yes it is untraditional but every couple is different and you have to do what is best for you!

Post # 13
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I believe your situation is very similar to KMSull, a regular poster on this board! She began planning before she was “officially” engaged, but she knew she and her now Fiance were going to get married. I’m sure she will pop in here to give you some words of encouragement!

Post # 14
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yep I’m in that boat too. Our biggest problem is the date since we are waiting for him to get a job in my city. We’re basically trying to do as much as we can before the official engagement so that once he gets a new job, things can move really quickly. As long as he’s on board, I say go for it!

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