Post # 32
We started planning before we were engaged, but then moved the date forwards 4 months so its now summer not winter, and all the planning was useless (but really fun!!). I’d say go for it, it’s only you about you 2 anyway!
Post # 33
I think it’s fine to plan together as long as you’re both aware of it! I agree with the other bees that you could also get a diamond simulant engagement ring, or wear a less expensive family ring (a great grandmother’s ring perhaps) for the time being and use the extra cash that would’ve gone into a real diamond ring for the wedding expenses instead. Then he could ‘surprise’ you with a real ring on your fifth or tenth anniversary or something.
Post # 34
I know this is an older thread, but after reading the comments I felt I had to register to leave some of my own thoughts. I am also a future bride planning my wedding without a proposal. I know my guy has bought the ring, but has yet to pop the question. Because certain venues book quickly in Houston, I had to move fast to reserve my reception hall. When I updated my facebook status (which in retrospect wasn’t the best idea) that my wedding was less than a year away, I was amazed how negative some people were concerning the fact I wasn’t officially engaged. I was sadden by the whole situation. I usually don’t let what people say bother me, but when people make disparaging remarks about something personal, it does affect me. I just wanted to let everyone know that reading all these supportive comments have made me feel a thousand times better. I’m glad to know I’m not the only bride in this situation, and that like many of the other posters, my guy and I are making the best decisions for ourselves, which is what a marriage should be about. =)