Post # 1
I am feeling so lost. We have a venue but may have to change the date if the pastor he wants is not avaliable he is taking forever to get his number he wont call the church because he wants his oersonal number. i asked him to get his guest list organized and he said you told me 5 times. I need them for save the dates. I hate yelling but i dont understand why he cant help with this.
Post # 3
@chesb: Aww sweetie, hugs! It’s a man thing. 😉 I promise he’ll get to it. You might have to hold him upside down by his legs, though! I know this is cliche, but it will all be okay.
Post # 4
If your wedding date is correct it is way too late for save the dates.
Is he like this with everything he does? Is this out of the norm for him or does he blow off what you ask of him routinely?
Post # 5
@chesb: I sent the guest list to my MIL to help with addresses, do you have someone from his side (mom, sister…) that can help? DH had little desire to help plan until about two weeks before the wedding…at which time he had opinions on everything that I’d already done and wanted done differently. Even though I ran everything by him beforehand.
Post # 6
I would totally be pissed if my husband hadn’t helped with wedding planning. If he wants this weding then he should be willing to put in some work. Tell him that if he doesn’t talk to the pastor then you’ll just have to find someone else. And if he can’t get a list of his friends and family the they can’t be invited. Yes, I ended up doing more planning than my husband, but he absolutely contributed when I needed him to.
Post # 7
After i yelled a few times he finally got the number and left the pastor a message. I have lots of people who can help me. He helps with most things just nothing to do with our wedding i think thats why i was so upset. today i fell in love and the venue staff with be so helpful with decor even a tent if it rains during the cermony. So fingers crossed the minster can be there 🙂
Post # 8
@chesb: sorry to hear that sweetie. My FI likes to drag his feet with tasks I give him too so I totally understand the frustration, so sometimes I end up having to do it myself if I really care about having it done on time. However, there might be tasks out there that he might enjoy doing that you just haven’t found yet! For example, my FI is really into arranging music for the ceremony/reception and took that task on very quickly and eagerly. That took me by surprise.
If the date in your profile is correct then you should really have your guest list finalized soon. It is unfair for him to not help with this. Tell him that if he doesn’t give you a list soon, none of his friends will be included. You can ask his parents about family members to include. This threat got my FI to put together his list very quickly.