(Closed) Planning a wedding in less than a year!

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t think it’s a big deal to have less than a year.  For my June 2015 wedding I booked my venue mid-July 14, my photographer mid Sept, my dj in I think November.  Dress ordered in November.  It came in mid march. I sent save the dates in January.  I think I ordered invitations in early April to mail may 1.  Oh and florist and cake in February. 

 

Post # 4
Hostess
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You’ll be ok!  I’d focus on getting your dress and your venue – and the other pieces generally can be booked closer in. Just breathe!  Lots of wedding planning, in my experience, is waiting. 

The only thing is – if you were planning on doing a ton of DIY projets, you’ll obviouslay be a little more crunched for time. 

Post # 6
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4252 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Our engagement was 8 months and it was PLENTY of time.  My biggest suggestion is to not get focused on one particular date, but decide on a particular month or a time of year.  Don’t get set on one particular venue, call around everywhere and you might be surprised.  My “first choice” at the beginning of planning wasn’t available the timeframe I wanted it, so I kept on looking.  Then I found our venue and honestly?  I love it MUCH MORE than my “first choice”.  You would be surprised at what you might find.  Finding a venue and picking a date is probably one of the most stressful parts of planning so once you get through that it’s not that bad at all!  Just keep calling and keep looking, something will work out!  It’s most definitely possible to plan a wedding in less than a year.

Oh, also I have a friend who got engaged mid May and just got married last weekend.  That’s right, 3 months.  They just really wanted to get married right away, no other reason, and they did it!

Post # 7
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3008 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My engagement was also 8 months. It was the perfect amount of time. Best of luck! And, deep breaths!

Post # 9
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1198 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

breathe! i also had a very short time to plan a wedding! we pulled it off with one chinese ceremony with family and one fun party with friends! good luck! 

Post # 10
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2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

It’s not the closeness of the wedding date that stresses you out,  It’s all the friggin’ people that you rather not see there! This is where you have to put your foot  down and tell your mom, Future Mother-In-Law and whoever else is involved in getting your list huge,  that either she drops the people SHE is inviting (WTF? why she is inviting people,  or  telling you who is invited, first of all? ) Or,  she pays for them! End of discussion.  You’re not a billionaire!

Post # 12
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1553 posts
Bumble bee

We planned our wedding (for 120 people) in 5 months. The first thing we did was book our venue. It was fine, and though I expected it to be stressful from all the things I heard about wedding planning, it was actually really easy.

Post # 13
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1308 posts
Bumble bee

Facebook, the bee, magazines, and obsessed girlfriends will make you think you need years to plan a wedding.  You don’t.  There will be certain sacrifices you will make, maybe (as in, venue may be booked, MAYBE caterer, but I had no issues honestly other than my venue so we settled on a Sunday).  

You can do it in much less than a year, as other bees attested.  I had 11 months and was doing a LOT of waiting.  You have 100% control, and don’t forget it.  You need to make a choice whether or not you are going to obsess over every nit picking detail, but before you do, please keep in mind many guests do not remember these details.  In general, they will remember the company, the food, and the general “fun” atmosphere of your wedding.  

My best advice is to be realistic about your venues.  Pick a day (maybe on the weekend) and go through a florist, DJ, caterer etc websites and see reviews/pictures of their work.  Narrow your list down to maybe 2 or 3 to actually visit.  I actually ended up picking my florist very quickly and have been very pleased with her.  We also picked an all inclusive venue (DJ and bar/staff were hired thorugh venue) to make things easier on ourselves.  Our DOC is also through our venue, and prices were competitive!

A year is more than enough time.  I promise.  Give yourself one day to do small tasks and just check them off your list.  It’s not bad.  If you choose to stress over it like so many couples do, then your wedding planning will not be fun at all.  Just go with the flow and it’ll be beautiful.

The more choices you give yourself in general for your wedding, the longer it will take you to plan and the more stressed you will be.  You see this happen on here with some women who try on what seems like a billion dresses and are stressed because they can’t find the one (“I had the dress but tried this dress on! What if it’s better? What if I regret it?!”), like too many caterers, etc etc.  After a while a good caterer, florist etc will be price competitive and you just need to PICK something.  

Another fun little tidbit to make it less stressful, is to give your wedding a theme.  I’m not sure how into this you are, but my Fiance and I are having a fall wedding with Harry Potter details because we are cheesey and it’s our favorite movies to watch together.  It really made my planning fun, and narrowed down my search in terms of the little details (guestbook, favors etc).  It won’t look like a 5th grade birthday party, but it made it surprisingly fun and actually very easy.  Do you ad your Fiance have something you really enjoy together, whether it be a movie or a hobby?

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Post # 15
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2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

lildropofsunshine:  you don’t HAVE TO invite people that are not close to you.  Just because they are related to you somehow doesn’t mean they get  an automatic invite.  If you haven’t spoken to a person for 10+ years they really don’t matter to you.  It’s all up to you if you’re gonna have to expand your guest list, or if you talk to your mom and be honest with her,  that you envision your wedding as  a more intimate affair,  that you want to be with people that are close to you,  not those that are invited out of obligation.  If your mom feels strongly that she needs to have every person in the family invited,  then she needs to foot a large part of your bill.  Be very blunt with her,  if you have to,  otherwise you’ll regret many things and will harbor resentment.  You’re the bride,  you should have enough room for your friends also!  

I planned my wedding in less than 10 months, literally in one week me and Fiance  booked a venue,  got a dj, photographer and florist.  I’ve done nothing at all for months,  because everything was done so fast.  Try not  to obsess about every little detail,  because they don’t matter.  I’ve been to many weddings,  and the only things I remember were bride’s dress,  quality of food,  if the music sucked or not,   and the general party atmosphere. Don’t worry about the napkins, color of candles,  and all that other unnecessary crap.  Try to relax and  let go of the stress,  because you need to enjoy the planning prices at least a little bit. Good luck! 

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