Post # 1
ugh where to even begin I need to right this and vent this out or I am going to explode.
Me and my fiance have been together over 3 years we got engaged April of 2012. We were suppose to get married this year but due to fiancial issues we decdied to post pone our date again to 10.04.2014 giving us more time to save up money and really enjoy the planning process.
We had orginally decided to do a 100 person wedding with drinking danceing and all over the things a wedding is suppose to have. Now we have dicussed things and since my parents and his parents are splitting most of the bill besides the dress we have decided to cut the guest list down to 30 people just close friends and family. We have also changed our venue to a small resturant to cut down on rentals. We have cut out dj and first dance all together to keep cost low as well.
With all these changes you think that everyone would be happy no. My mom thinks the food is still to expensive and my future mother in law disagrees and doesnt understand why we cant have the orginal wedding we planned.
On top of all this my mom comes out and says that she does not agree with me marrying my fiance and that she thinks I can do better than him. She doesnt consider my feelings at all and that I truley love him and would not have said yes if i had any doubts. My fiancee hears our phone conversation and gets all upset and now doesnt even want to see her for Christmas. I am over this wedding all i wanna do is go to the court house or vegas.
To me a wedding is not suppose to be this much hassle its suppose to bond a mother and daugther and two familys become one but, this feels like a ccomplete nightmare.
Any advice on how to make the situation better would be greatly welcomed. Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
@adkellstrom88: I’m so sorry you are having such a hard time! Chin up and remember to do what you want to do for your wedding! If you want the 100 person party, it might still be possible. I have a friend who had a 200 person wedding with a 8k budget (VERY hard to do here in MI).
Let us know if you need any help with anything! This should be a fun expirenece for you!!! And let your mom know your feelings!
Post # 4
@adkellstrom88: you can pull of a large wedding on a budget, it is possible but it requires work ! decide what you really want and then look at your budget and try to include everything/find alternatives/omit certain things that are just not worth the money to you.
Im sorry to hear about your FI overhearing that conversation, seems to me like maybe mom has been holding in some feelings and now that its getting close to time she cant hold it in any longer. consider havin a talk in person with her (idk if that would be plausible without knowing details of ur relationship) but I would definitely clear the air because its goin to be awk/uncomfortable for him around her until you do.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@adkellstrom88: I just wrote a blog post on doing a large wedding on a budget! Is money the only thing holding you back from planning a big wedding or would you rather a small wedding for lots of reasons? Were any deposits lost because of the change of date and venue? I know wedding planning can bring up family drama but I really do enjoy the wedding planning process.
Here’s the post: http://nicoleandmitch.blogspot.ca/
Post # 6
I just want to get married. I really like the idea of a small wedding simple elegant and only close friends and family. No deposit were lost and the venders were cool with us changing our dates one time and one time only. I dont want their to be any tension between my mother and my FI either.
Post # 7
@adkellstrom88: Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through this! 🙁 Planning a wedding can be tough, and the added stress isn’t exactly welcomed. You can do a big, lavish wedding on a budget, you just need to know where to look. Call in favours, if you can. My DJ was my father’s ex-girlfriend’s dad. My in-laws bought our cake. My aunt made our cupcakes. My hair/makeup lady was a friend from high school. All of that was free for us, and our wedding wasn’t even $1400. It can be done. I hope it turns out for the best, I really do 🙂