(Closed) Planning a wedding without a coordinator?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did you have a wedding coordinator?
    Yes : (22 votes)
    21 %
    No : (84 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m going to keep it small, get all the help I can from family and try try try not to worry about things not being perfect.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think there are plenty of brides out there (and on this board) who don’t use wedding planners. My only advice is to stay organized and use a checklist. Off Beat bride has a great step by step check list, as well as some other websites. Get your list, grab your helpers and away you go.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think lots of people plan without a coordinator. There are plenty of to do lists online, and inspiration all over.

    Post # 6
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    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    There was a point in the planning where FH and I seriously considered hiring a wedding planner.  We even met with one and bounced a few ideas off her.

    But once I booked the venue, which secured the date, I was able to research photographers, DJs, bridesmaids dresses, hair/makeup artists, caterers, etc on my own and I realized that yes, it takes a long time but I was able to do it.  Hindsight I’m glad FH and I decided to do the planning on our own.  It turned out to be do-able even though it’s very time consuming and you have to be organized.  I would reach out to many vendors and then compare them in an Excel spreadsheet in order to keep myself organized.  I also created a separate wedding email because that was my primary method of contacting vendors.

    For FH and I, we are using that money that would have gone towards a wedding planner on other aspects of our wedding. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    829 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I did not.  I am super organized, so I wasn’t worried at all about having a coordinator.  Plus, all of my friends pitched in A LOT!  I packed all of the reception decor in boxes, and tapped labels of what was inside.  I picked my two most bossy/coordinated friends and separated the tasks into two, and put one in charge of each.  I told people where I wanted things and let them have at it – that meant that they decorated the tables how they thought looked best (I put my more creative friend in charge of that, so I trusted her opinion – I was also emailing her during the planning stage with questions/suggestions so she knew what I wanted). 

    During the reception my friends just took care of things – we also had the on-site coordinator checking in (well, like twice) to make sure we had enough ice but that was about it.

    I made all of the decor myself – I made a looong list, but ended up cutting quite a bit out the weeks leading up to the wedding.

     

    Just remember not to stress & to have fun!! The day will go by so quickly, and people won’t notice if you are “missing” something or if something goes wrong!

     

    What are the main items you are worried about?

    Post # 8
    Member
    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m doing it all without a coordinator & without much help from family/friends. It’s possible- you just have to be extremely organized and on top of things.

    Post # 11
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We have a wedding coordinator through our venue…she doesn’t help with day-to-day planning but rather will help to set up our venue on the wedding day and make sure everything runs smoothly.

    I don’t think it’s necessary to have a coordinator, but to make the day stress-free you may way to consider hiring one for the day-of.

    Post # 12
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We’re planning our wedding ourselves, but we want to hire a month-of or da-of coordinator to help with the final preparations.  Also, having our wedding entourage and family help at the wedding was out of the question.  We decided early on that we don’t want family members to do anything except eat, drink and be merry. 

    I do honestly think it’s possible to plan a wedding without a coordinator, but I would have to consider how “big” and “complicated” the wedding will be.

    Post # 13
    Member
    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We do not have one either.  My best advice would be don’t be shy about asking for help.  I’m so lucky to have wonderful friends and family who are willing to help.  It sounds like you do too!  My other piece of advice would be not to procrastinate.  I have a terrible procrastination problem, so I had to make sure I was keeping up with projects.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t have one, and my bridesmaids live in different states, so I’m doing it all myself. I’m organized, so I’m not worried [ask me again when it gets closer lol]. Just keep a checklist of things to do every month, a more detailed list of what to do weekly once it’s the month of, and another list of things to do the day of/day before. You can do it!

    Post # 15
    Member
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @cupcakelady:  Where do you live and what kind of ceremony do you want?  Every area will be different.  We had an outdoor wedding and aren’t particularly religious so we didn’t have an existing pastor/priest/church so we chose between a chaplain for our workplace and hiring a Marriage commissioner and decided to go with a commissioner. 

    I would guess if you google “how to get married in x” you’ll get aweb site similar to this that explains it!

    http://www.vs.gov.bc.ca/marriage/

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