(Closed) Planning a wedding without a coordinator?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did you have a wedding coordinator?
    Yes : (22 votes)
    21 %
    No : (84 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 17
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010



    Officiants in Virginia:

    Any ordained minister who can show proof of ordination. Marriage Commissioners,and Judges (Circuit Court, District Court, or retired) in Virginia may also perform civil weddings.



    License is valid for sixty (60) days.


    Copy of Certificate of Marriage:

    Office of Vital Records and Health Statistics
    State Health Department
    P.O. Box 1000
    Richmond, VA 23218-1000
    Phone: 804-225-5000
    So it looks like a civil ceremony is best for you.  Call up your county clerks office and see if there’s anybody available to perform a ceremony at your venue on your date ans you’re good to go. 

    Post # 19
    829 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @cupcakelady:  Have you thought about the type of ceremony you want? Religious, not religious, readings, the vows, etc?  Once you and your fiance establish that the hardest thing is done! Check out your state laws too.  We live in CO and can legally marry ourselves (with one witness I think), so we just picked a friend to “marry” us.  It was my husband’s friend from college who is a good public speaker (very important!).  If your state allows anyone to marry you / or someone to be ordained online you might want to consider that – then you know who/what  you are getting.

    Sit down and think about what you want incorporated, and when.  Just type up a “script” to follow.  Start with the main ideas and fill in the details later – like what songs you want people to walk into.

    Something to think about too is incorporating any traditions.  I am Irish & my husband is part Swedish so I looked up marriage/ceremony traditions from those countries.  I didn’t find anything I liked from Sweden, but did incorporate the Irish handfasting tradition – no one had seen that at a wedding before and thought it was so cool.

    I will work on posting my vows so you and others can see what we did!  I researched tons of different vows/ceremonies, cut and paste what I liked, then my husband and I sat down and deleted and moved things around.  We also wrote our own vows to each other.


    Post # 21
    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We didn’t have one.  It was a fiasco.  The caterer didn’t get along with the venue owner, and we had to try to manage their bickering and infighting for months before the wedding.  There was no one to shield us from their nonsense.  My husband and I spent the day after our wedding stacking folding chairs and tables and sweeping up.  Make sure there is someone to worry about all those tedious details for you.  Or, don’t get a DIY venue with no staff.

    Post # 22
    9482 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Me, Future Mother-In-Law, and FGIL are the coordinators.  Haha.

    Post # 23
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I am doing all the planning myself, but I am consider a day of coordinator or someone to decorate and break down the stuff so my family won’t have to do it.

    Post # 24
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m planning without a coordinator and I love every minute of it! My mom tried to control a lot of my wedding decisions early on (and she wasn’t paying for any of it) so I think I just like being in control. I love entertaining too so I guess I see planning the biggest party of our lives on our own as an awesome challenge. The DIY projects are fun. Being resourceful with finding the right vendors has even been enjoyable (surprisingly).

    I think the hardest are I’ve had is the same as you. The ceremony is throwing me for a bit of a loop… figures that the important part would trip somebody up right? Whatever officiant you go with should have some set ceremonies that you can tweak. Before you meet with them find ideas for anything you want to incorporate. Then you can see which of their ceremonies fits best with what you want.

    We just started browsing ideas online. We found a lot of things we want to put into the ceremony and now the problem is finding a way to tie them in together. Right now I feel like we just have a hodge podge of traditions thrown together without any order. Our wedding will be the first for a friend who is officiating so we really have to figure this out. Yikes!

    Post # 25
    4014 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Not a planner but we have a day of coordinator and her assistant to take care of things for us! She’s a lifesaver alreay with all her connections and we still have 19 months!

    Post # 26
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am planning by myself with my Fiance as assitant…LOL… My mom is helping and my bridesmaid of course. I am not sure I may have a DOC but not sure as we are trying to keep unnecessary costs down!

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