(Closed) Planning a wedding without a groom

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmm… even if she does find somebody in the next few months, what if he has ideas of what he’d like his wedding to be like? 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

She’s got balls, but she’s crazy, but not in the weird psycho way as she said. But stranger things have happened …

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Howdy from the country, ladies-in-waiting! I saw this clip at O’hare right before my flight. Um…yeah. Not crazy. Whatever she says. My gut reaction was that she wanted a “wedding” not a “marriage”. Maybe it will work for her, who knows?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

wow, that is definitely gutsy!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Very gutsy, indeed.  Sounds to me, however, that she’s more focused on getting married than having a long lasting and healthy marriage.   She’s more likely to find some media whore who wants his 15 minutes of fame and is willing to marry for it than a guy who truly loves her for her and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. 

She’ll likely find a groom, but not a husband.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I second @lezlers…. I don’t know that that’s the way to find a husband (maybe a groom?)

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper

Risky, risky! I agree that the concept of the wedding seems more important than the concept of a lifelong marriage.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I kinda do think she’s psycho.  The wedding should be a celebration and REFLECTION of the TWO of you.  I can’t believe how many women just want a big flashy ring and a big fancy wedding and don’t really give a crap which chump gives it to them.  And we wonder why there’s such a high divorce rate. There are more important things to obsess over!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I kinda do think she’s psycho.  The wedding should be a celebration and REFLECTION of the TWO of you.  I can’t believe how many women just want a big flashy ring and a big fancy wedding and don’t really give a crap which chump gives it to them.  And we wonder why there’s such a high divorce rate. There are more important things to obsess over!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I like her! I think the project is a little crazy and it is maybe not the best way to go about things– but I respect that she is at least out there going after what she wants. I can’t stand it when people are down about not being in a relationship and yet they don’t seem to be putting any effort forth in finding a mate. This girl is 100% effort! And really… my mom got married at 17 and is still happily married 34 years later. My MOH’s parents got engaged after only 6 weeks and are still happily married almost 40 years later. And lots of people who do the traditional thing get divorced. So who is to say it might not work? 

I’ll say this though– if it does work? I smell 2012’s hit romantic comedy starring sandra bullock. 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Okay I think she’s totally crazy (I just heard Michael Kors  saying “Wackado”). I mean I get people who say “I wanna get married in x amount of years” and put themselves out there dating and whatnot.

It seems like she wouldn’t really have time to get to know someone well enough by Feb in order to establish a real relationship. Plus the wedding should reflect the future of the couple and about the marriage.

This leaves a bad taste in my mouth because it’s not about establishing a lasting relationship it’s about “OMG I’m 35 and I want to have a WEDDING!” Ick.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Leaves a bad taste in my mouth too!  This is not to offend anybody who puts off marriage and children for their career, or travel, or whatever personal choice they make…but I do think sometimes when women wait, thinking they have bigger goals to acheive and there’s plenty of time for that later…sometimes they desperately find another person who is also desperate for marriage and children, marry somebody who’s wrong for them, and start pumping out the kids because they feel their time is running out.  They defend their choices for waiting with “I don’t want to settle” or “I haven’t found the perfect guy” but then they end up settling because the clock is ticking.  I know several women who will straight up tell their husbands all they needed them for was children. I think finding the right person to be with for eternity, even if it means you need to adopt or have assistance in conceiving, is a much better choice.

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