Post # 1
So I’ve been engaged for almost a year! Crazy! And what a year it has been…I’ve done so many wedding tasks so far, and yet there is more to come! But even more than that is that I’ve planned it mostly sans-fiance. Why, you might ask?
He is in the Army and has been in Iraq since May. Its been a crazy whirlwind of emotions. A lot of bad, but some good as well. Being independent and knowing we can make it through being apart and still stay close has been a suprising result. I mean its not normal by any means. Even long distance alone would be easier. We can barley have a normal conversation a few times a week.
What can be annoying is the whole “he wouldn’t be helping anyways” line. Well, that MAY be true. He wouldn’t want to go with me to pick out flowers or favors. But the luxury of picking up the phone and asking his opinion would be nice. Even when we do talk, the wedding planning is the last thing on his mind and it is hard to get a straight answer out of him. Sigh.
Frustrating yes. Impossible? No. We can do this, and I’ve got great family and friends to help and support me.
Anyone else planning a wedding alone or dealing with a military wedding?
Post # 3
I understand how you feel. My husband really didn’t have any interest at all in the details of our wedding planning. I know it’s tough not being able to talk to your Fiance much because he is overseas but at least he won’t be gone forever. Just think about how you are planning the wedding that will start the rest of your lives together! And I hope he won’t be deployed many more times after this.
Post # 4
My mom planned their entire wedding without my dad, and 36 years later, they’re still happily married. just keep the end in site and know you get to spend the rest of your life with him 🙂
Post # 5
AAWWW Sorry. I am planning a wedding without an interested fiance, but I am able to talk with him to get his idea on things, though he is not interested in looking at flowers or invitations. Since we are having a winter wedding our theme is snowflakes. He gets tired of looking at which snowflakes look better. 🙂
Keep your chin up. 9 months and you are done planning the rest of your lives together! 🙂
Post # 6
My mom’s mom planned their whole wedding and LET them invite 2 friends each. No joke. 30+ years later they’re still happy…. don’t worry so much about the details 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
I’m sure it’s hard without the support. My Fiance has been very interested in most of the details, and I’m sure it would make my planning more difficult if I didn’t have his reassurance that the things I like are also things he likes.
Even if he isn’t there working with you to plan the wedding, just know that he’ll be there to plan the rest of your lives, and you’ll always be a team no matter how far you are!
I admire you for staying strong while being apart! I hope he comes home soon!