Planning a wedding

posted 2 months ago in Wedding Related
Post # 2
4789 posts
Honey bee

Start with your guest list and budget. Those two items define everything.

Then figure out your priorities as a couple (for us it was single venue, food, wine, music, photos, transportation, and rum cake!) and what you don’t want (video, large wedding party, signs for us) or could do without (favors, hard liquor for us).

A coordinator was not originally a must have, but our venue required one. And now I think either a partial planner or day of coordinator is essential, especially if you host your wedding at a venue that requires everything to be brought in like ours. I did not need a full planner as I have experience planning events so I did not need help negotiating contracts and such.

Post # 3
8007 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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@sunshinebabe:  Congratulations!

Budget!!! Budget determines so much. It costs very little to get married; don’t go into debt for a party. If other people/parents are contributing make certain everyone is clear about who decides what and what strings come with the money.

Also discuss priorities with your Fi. Where does food fall in relation to music? Or flowers? Do you want formal or casual? Brunch? Dinner? 

Post # 4
2001 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Budget. Don’t book anything until you know you can afford it

Post # 5
1320 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

Budget and guest list. You can’t decide on a venue until you know how many people you want to invite, and the cost per head.

For us, after that, it was venue as the top priority. The venue will determine the date you can book, and you need the date before you can book any other suppliers.

Also, not sure how relevant this is where you are, but we had to be able to show we had an officiant booked before our venue would finalise our booking, so I’d look into the various legal requirements and how much officiants etc will eat into your budget. I’m in the U.K., so it’s possibly different where you are, but we had to have specific registrars from the area our venue was in, and it was close to £700 in total. Not a cost I’d even considered, I wish someone had told me!

Post # 6
1520 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve just started planning as well. I will admit to pre-planning a bit (or at least looking up options). I put together a binder and anytime I saw something I liked in passing just stuck it in.

I’ve started emailing venues for quotes and just print and stick them in the folder. 

We’re having a proper budget/guest determinatin in January (my partner needs to decide if he wants family only or 120 people and he keeps going back and forth). 

I’ve gotten quotes for all sorts of things (including the smaller ones) because I find it hard to budget without a big picture.

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