- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Hi, this is my first ever post on boards other than Not Wedding Related. I hope I am posting on the right board about this…
I just got engaged to a man whose parents are from South India but who is very westernised and has pretty much no idea about traditions and rituals.
I should also mention that I am a westernised South East asian and my Fiance and I live in my country.
Upon planning 2 weddings in both his hometown(western country) and in mine where we live, I am finding it hard to even get started with one in his hometown where we will have HIS people as guests.
I personally want to have a civil ceremony and a regular reception to follow with me wearing a white gown (but maybe incorporate Indian accessories) because it is easier to plan and less expensive. We will be paying for everything. But I am not sure if this is naturally acceptable?
When we got engaged his mother arranged an S. Indian engagement ceremony without us knowing and we just showed up and participated. I didn’t mind this but this made me think that maybe she wants us to do an Indian wedding or maybe she will assume that we will be doing an Indian one…?
What I am needing help with is how to speak to his mother about what she expects without giving her a vibe that she can choose things for our wedding?
What’s the norm with inter cultural couples recently?