(Closed) Planning but not engaged

posted 13 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
13 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

For me my boyfriend thinks i talk about getting married waaay to much, but to me i’m just trying to figure out what he wants for the wedding…It’s hard talking to him, because he doesn’t want to talk about it. we’ve already got a date set, a venue picked out, which we’re putting the down payment for the end of march, and now he says the next thing to do is really pick out a ring, not just go look at them… I feel like he’s doing it his way, and i feel like i can’t do it any other way, because i don’t want to "pressure" him…Even though he’s very happy to be getting married… He’s confusing…

Post # 34
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Awww it feels good to NOT be the only one!! My boyfriend has had MY ring somewhere in our apartment for the past three months and though I haven’t torn the place apart looking for it (I picked it out, but I just want to see it again!) I am going CRAZY knowing that he has it and has not asked yet. He says he has it all planned out he is just waiting for the right time. **Everytime he asks to go for a walk on the beach, even though i’m dead tired I say OKAY, hoping that maybe it might be then!!** (crazy I know)

We ALREADY have our venue picked out and put down the deposit to lock in the date. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who has so much of my wedding planned but is not engaged!

Post # 35
1 posts

I’m glad I’m not the only going through this.  We have talked about getting married.  He says he’s designed a ring for me.  He even had my finger sized and ordered the ring last week.  Now I just have to wait. 

 He keeps making suggestions about our wedding but we haven’t set a date or really started planning. 

I’m pretty sure he plans on proposing at Disneyland so now every trip we make to the "Magic Kingdom" is painful for me. 

 The anticipation is killing me.  I would just like to be able to set a date and start planning out in the open instead of being sneaky about it. LOL

Post # 36
6 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

You girls are off to a running start! I’ve had the ring for over a year and just started planning

Post # 37
25 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’ve been together 8 years. On February 14th this year, we visited three venues, decided one of them was "the one" and set a date of June 20, 2009. Yes, that’s 4 months to plan a destination wedding in the Adirondacks for 150 invited guests. And he still has not "proposed."

It was kind of awkward at first because the call to our parents was "we set a date!" instead of "we’re engaged!" But once the planning started and they realized it was "for real," I think they’ve gotten over the whole lack-of-a-ring thing.

Good luck!

The topic ‘Planning but not engaged’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors