- 5 years ago
A long story short: There are 3 of us in the bridal party wedding. No Maid/Matron of Honor. All just bridesmaids.
We are doing a low key bach party. The two other Brides maids asked the Bride if we can throw the bach party at her house.
She of course agreed. I stepped up and suggested that was a bad idea and that the bride was only agreeing to that because she felt bad. After talking with the Bride, she admitted she didn’t want it at her house anyway. Since, I have told her that we will rearrange things so its not at her house. Its not fair for her to host 14 people in her house for her own bachelorette party. Its also putting her fiance out.
After telling her this, she thanked me. Then, she reached out to the other bridesmaids and told them that she wanted to increase her guest list for the bach party.
I asked the other girls for some more details as far as plans go and what I can do to help. I was then told that the party was in fact still on at the brides house and that she wanted it to be at her house, and that she has extended her guest list.
I reached out to the newly invited girls about the date, seeing its 2 weeks away, and they were like – why is it at her house? And offered it to be at their houses. (Mind you, it could be at my house too, or any of our houses really!)
At this point I dont know whether or not to fight the issue of where the party is going to be located, or let it go. After the shower, and dress fittings, and planning….ect…..Im so exhausted with the zero communication that I do not care anymore, and that makes me sad because I was asked to be apart of this wedding to honor my bestfriend, not to resent her for putting me through this nonsense.
Am I crazy to think that having the bride host her own bachelorette party at her own house isn’t okay to ask of her. Or am I wrong?