(Closed) Planning for an Imaginary Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1524 posts
Bumble bee

@aokay:  its fine as long as ur nt paying for the venue or buying a 5000 dollar gown. My boyfriend and I are planning to get married but he’s saving for the ring. So we’ve already started budgeting etc. but dnt go crazy buying stuff. 

Post # 4
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1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I started dreaming about my wedding and coming up with inspiration boards, etc. while I was waiting. It started when I was helping my sister plan her wedding… I often came across ideas that I liked for myself that didn’t work out for her, so I started a file… or 12, lol. Once we started ring shopping and discussed a wedding date, I started looking at venues online, even before I had the ring… because it was fun and also because we were planning to get married within 4 months. By the time he proposed a month later, I already had my heart set on a certain venue and photographer. In my situation, it worked out just fine, and allowed me to pull everything together within a short time frame (wedding on opposite coast planned within 14 weeks!).

I say enjoy looking but don’t commit to anything! You want your actual engagement to be a fun period of planning as well! 🙂

Post # 6
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m planning and we’re not engaged – I’ve already started ringing around for venues etc.. haha

It’s never too early if you know for a fact it’s happening! (or at least that’s what I think haha!!)

Post # 7
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I started making a realistic budget. I have pinned ideas mostly. We want to get married in the park so we just need a permit and  a hall to have the reception in (NOT in Manhattan). Guest list and super minor stuffs.

Post # 8
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We’ve actually already picked out venue! I am such an impatient person, I could not wait to start planning. I am dying waiting for the proposal, lol.

Post # 9
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would say have fun… but remember that its also his wedding two…. so things you want/decide on pre-engagement might not be aligned with his wants. I think it’s fine as long as you are open to compromising after the ring shows up and you’re seriously planning.

Post # 10
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1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I asked my SO what he felt like a good budget for a wedding was.  He told me $5,000 (not including honeymoon or rings).  I’m planning to elope.  (:

Post # 11
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel like doing all the planning would make the time go even more slowly! I think it’s never too early to get inspiration and some ideas so you know what’s out there but your taste might change between now and then so I wouldn’t go purchasing things or anything.

Post # 12
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t commit to or purchase anything… but feel free to gather all the information and inspiration you can! I felt in my “waiting” period that I shouldn’t start planning before I was engaged for whatever reason, but it would have been SO much easier if I had looked around and figured out my likes/dislikes. I had a 7-month engagement.

Post # 13
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646 posts
Busy bee

Totally fine. Consider it research to know how much you need to save. Thats how I look at it!!

Post # 14
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Newbee

I’m waiting until I’m actually engaged before I do any serious planning.  However, if I come across an idea/song/photographer/etc that I love, I jot it down in a little notepad so that I won’t be as overwhelmed once the wedding planning really begins.  It’ll be nice to have something to work with instead of starting from scratch, especially because we plan on having a shorter engagement.  Also, I’ve started a second savings account…it’s more for a rainy day, but if the money happens to go into our wedding, then hey.  😉  Sometimes it’s good to plan ahead a little.

Post # 15
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958 posts
Busy bee

Oh, psh, I’ve got a NURSERY picked out, and we’re a few months out from getting engaged and like 4 years out from TTC. I just have a seperate pinterest account my SO doesn’t know about. 🙂

Post # 16
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Worker bee

@aokay:  I know it can be fun. I dont want to bust your bubble but has he clearly given you the signs he is going to propose?  I think sometimes as women we can miss out on the enjoyment of “getting there” because all we think about is “being there”

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