Post # 1
I was wondering how in depth others plan for their maybe someday wedding.
I have a time line of about a year for an engagement but can’t help looking at local venues (online), working out a detailed budget, and making an invite list already! I feel like I’ve skipped the proposal and dove straight into the wedding. Im not even bothering to worry about the proposal now that I have a timeline! I know Im rushing things, and I’m sure my SO would be shocked at how much I’ve already thought throught the details… but its SO MUCH FUN. Doesnt help my desk mate is in the middle of planning hers!
Advice? Comradery? Am I nuts?
Also, nice to meet you all! Long time lurker, recent member!
Post # 3
@aokay: its fine as long as ur nt paying for the venue or buying a 5000 dollar gown. My boyfriend and I are planning to get married but he’s saving for the ring. So we’ve already started budgeting etc. but dnt go crazy buying stuff.
Post # 4
I started dreaming about my wedding and coming up with inspiration boards, etc. while I was waiting. It started when I was helping my sister plan her wedding… I often came across ideas that I liked for myself that didn’t work out for her, so I started a file… or 12, lol. Once we started ring shopping and discussed a wedding date, I started looking at venues online, even before I had the ring… because it was fun and also because we were planning to get married within 4 months. By the time he proposed a month later, I already had my heart set on a certain venue and photographer. In my situation, it worked out just fine, and allowed me to pull everything together within a short time frame (wedding on opposite coast planned within 14 weeks!).
I say enjoy looking but don’t commit to anything! You want your actual engagement to be a fun period of planning as well! 🙂
Post # 5
@78h2o: Whew, yea Im just glad Im not the only one, I’m helping my co-worker with her wedding so I find myself doing the same thing, lots of pinning and bookmarks haha.
I promise not to commit to anything (doesnt that sound strange hahah) and there’s no way Im buying/booking anything. Though you’re right I should probably try to cool it, otherwise I wont have anything left to look forward to planning!
Post # 6
I’m planning and we’re not engaged – I’ve already started ringing around for venues etc.. haha
It’s never too early if you know for a fact it’s happening! (or at least that’s what I think haha!!)
Post # 7
I started making a realistic budget. I have pinned ideas mostly. We want to get married in the park so we just need a permit and a hall to have the reception in (NOT in Manhattan). Guest list and super minor stuffs.
Post # 8
We’ve actually already picked out venue! I am such an impatient person, I could not wait to start planning. I am dying waiting for the proposal, lol.
Post # 9
I would say have fun… but remember that its also his wedding two…. so things you want/decide on pre-engagement might not be aligned with his wants. I think it’s fine as long as you are open to compromising after the ring shows up and you’re seriously planning.
Post # 10
I asked my SO what he felt like a good budget for a wedding was. He told me $5,000 (not including honeymoon or rings). I’m planning to elope. (:
Post # 11
I feel like doing all the planning would make the time go even more slowly! I think it’s never too early to get inspiration and some ideas so you know what’s out there but your taste might change between now and then so I wouldn’t go purchasing things or anything.
Post # 12
Don’t commit to or purchase anything… but feel free to gather all the information and inspiration you can! I felt in my “waiting” period that I shouldn’t start planning before I was engaged for whatever reason, but it would have been SO much easier if I had looked around and figured out my likes/dislikes. I had a 7-month engagement.
Post # 13
Totally fine. Consider it research to know how much you need to save. Thats how I look at it!!
Post # 14
I’m waiting until I’m actually engaged before I do any serious planning. However, if I come across an idea/song/photographer/etc that I love, I jot it down in a little notepad so that I won’t be as overwhelmed once the wedding planning really begins. It’ll be nice to have something to work with instead of starting from scratch, especially because we plan on having a shorter engagement. Also, I’ve started a second savings account…it’s more for a rainy day, but if the money happens to go into our wedding, then hey. 😉 Sometimes it’s good to plan ahead a little.
Post # 15
Oh, psh, I’ve got a NURSERY picked out, and we’re a few months out from getting engaged and like 4 years out from TTC. I just have a seperate pinterest account my SO doesn’t know about. 🙂
Post # 16
@aokay: I know it can be fun. I dont want to bust your bubble but has he clearly given you the signs he is going to propose? I think sometimes as women we can miss out on the enjoyment of “getting there” because all we think about is “being there”