(Closed) Planning for an Imaginary Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
41 posts

I just posted about this because we had to book our venue if we wanted to get married in 2013. We knew we wanted to get married next year, just weren’t sure when. So I don’t see a problem with it as long as your SO knows your thoughts. ๐Ÿ™‚ Hope you get the ring soon though!!!

Post # 33
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I may or may not already have the budget, date, guest list, food (including cake, of course), DJ, photography, venue, flowers, bridesmaids dresses/groomsmen attire, and honeymoon “planned”…

Post # 34
3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I actually had to plan an imaginary wedding for a project in high school. It got me thinking about my own wedding, though all my plans have changed since then. 

I had a lot of plans made before I was engaged. I didn’t buy anything or look anywhere except the internet until there was a ring. 

Post # 35
1336 posts
Bumble bee

Im a Bridesmaid or Best Man right now, and I had NO IDEA how much weddings cost, so I looked at davids bridal to see how much dresses cost, and when she looked at venues, I Googled venues in Baltimore, MD(where I live) and venues somewhat close to them,now I have an idea in the back of mind how much those 2 things(the most expensive too) will cost) even though I wont be engaged till…psh….. years from now.  I already know who I want as BMs, my SO told me awhile ago who he would have as Groomsmen, and who his best man would be. I know he wouldnt give a crap about theme, colors, flowers, etc. The only thing he would care about is the food and music. so That I havent looked at, just cake design. I have pics on my laptop of:

  • inspiration boards
  • dress pictures(BM/flower girl)
  • cake pictures
  • centerpieces
  • favors
  • shoes
  • photo ideas(bridal party, engagement photos, etc
  • flowers/boutineers

Post # 36
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Temecula, California

Sigh we’ve all fallen victim to this. I’ve been doing it so long I think I’ve planned six different weddings. I’ve changed my mind so many times

Post # 37
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@Batsygirl:  But you are allowed to…at this phase

Post # 38
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wish I had done some pre-dreaming/planning. I got engaged in Nov and getting married this summer (I hope). It’s a lot! I hadn’t the foggiest notion about what I wanted. I’ve been to a lot of weddings – big family, waitressing, musician.But I never thought about my own.

Since Nov., I’ve been doing what you’re probably doing, looking at dresses to sort of develop my taste, thinking about what kind of wedding do I really want, etc. Also, who will be in my bridal party. Where will it take place. 

To sum up, it would have helped me a lot to hit the ground running as you all no doubt will. I am still looking for a reception venue. 

Post # 39
87 posts
Worker bee

I honestly feel the same way

Post # 40
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I was on the Bee for quite awhile, and of course I was so inspired with everybody’s wedding planning ๐Ÿ™‚ I wasn’t engaged at them time, and had to seriously REFRAIN myself from looking at wedding dresses online, even though I SO much wanted to! But I thought to myself, why get your hopes up, you’re not even engaged yet ๐Ÿ™‚


2 weeks ago my Fiance Proposed :). TWO DAYS later, I was already typing up the first draft of my guestlist ๐Ÿ™‚ Trust me, the planning process is SO much more special and fun when it’s realistic!

Post # 41
564 posts
Busy bee

@aokay:  hi hi, i began researching venues (still am) just dont lay down any money!!!! I see no harm. my fav place is either glamerous vegas or the rocky mountains…..how amazing!!!! heh heh.

Post # 42
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I looked at venues online, started saving and made a guest list all before I was engaged. We already lived together though and knew we would be getting married. Honestly, there’s a lot to think about when you get married so I think it helps to minimize some of that stress. 

Just don’t talk about it with others or make any payments! 

Post # 43
863 posts
Busy bee

I have multiple boards on pinterest, a mock guest list, food list, my photographer is already set. My Nanna has given us permission to have it at her farm which I absolutely love! I have the month picked out…Last night I started kind of designing wedding invitations. I have a free dress that needs to be finished (80-90% done I’d say), although I’m not sure if that’s the dress I will wear. & I’m obviously waiting for that ring! But according to SO’s BFF’s wife, SO has been mentioning that he wants to do it soon!!!!


Below: my free dress

Post # 44
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I haven’t gone crazy booking venues, caterer, photographer, or a dress or anything like that. But I definitely have started working on a guest list! I have a binder hidden in my room with the guest list rough draft, budget, and a few pages that I pulled from Bride Magazines. 

Of course I will disuss all of this futher with SO once he proposes (by June, I think!!). I would never make any decisions without his consent. We will be going to look at venues and photographers and everything TOGETHER. Thats what a marriage is. It’s working together to make desicions. And I can not wait!

Oh, and this is going to make me sound crazy… but someone on Etsy was having a sale for personalized wedding hangers for $4each… so since I KNOW that a proposal will be happening in the next few months, I went ahead and bought them for me and my bridal party! ๐Ÿ˜› They will remain in the box in hiding until after a proposal happens. They should arive only about a month before the proposal, so thats good!

Post # 46
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

SO and I have already decided on a church, time of year, and a shortlist of venues – together. My mother and I are going to do a guest list shortly so that we can estimate size before booking venues. We’re getting engaged this Christmas, but we want to have a short engagement (a year or less) so we are all doing legwork now.

SO and I wanted to make big decisions ahead of time so we wouldn’t be under pressure with the immediate question-asking. He said the whole thing would be less stressful if we started pre-planning now. We’re also saving money.

Nothing has been booked (yet) though SO and I are weighing booking the church and venue this fall. If we feel like we can do it relatively quietly, we will. We have only told my parents (as he’s asked them) and so I have my mom and the bee for my excitement outlet.

Nothing wrong with browsing. Nothing wrong with doing a little early leg work. And I don’t even think its wrong to be dreaming even if you don’t know your SO is going to propose. People get shamed about that on here sometimes, mostly by members who are like “I never once even thought about weddings until a ring was on my hand”

Which is great for them, but I LOVE weddings. I loved weddings when I was a little girl. I cut dresses out of my cousins old “Bride” magazines and pasted them into little books when I was 8. I just did. There’s no shame in it. I love a freaking wedding! I’m totally excited about mine.

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