(Closed) Planning from a distance – anyone else?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Me too, although I am really thinking about doing a wedding planner, I just don’t have the planning bug and my indecision is killing me. 

I live in NC, but my wedding is in New England. We picked out our reception venue before we moved, booked it later, and already knew our church. I talked to our Photographer over the phone and love her work, and also her personality (she has a video on her website, and we are friends on facebook). DJ was very very highly recommended over at the knot. He was a great price too.. I’m lost on flowers, and other decorations. 

Post # 18
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We live in FL and we are getting married in MI. I’ve finally booked my Coordinator and am so relived! We have our church, reception site, photographer, and DJ already booked.

We’re fortunate because FI’s parent’s live in the town we’re getting married and know alot of the vendors already. But still, I want to BE there and I can’t be. Sometimes it makes me sad I can’t do more. And then I see the craziness that ensues, and I’m happy to show up, get pretty, say I do, and party!

Post # 19
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@thursdayschild: Yup I live in Vnacouver b.c and our wedding is in vegas.. So it has been quite hard on me planning so far away. I have only had 4 months to plan everything. I have the venue booked, flights, hotel, ceremony, reception honeymoon, rental cars and I have already gone for my first dress fitting having my second one in October. Just the small things that need to be bought and arranged.

Post # 20
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hey Thursdays,

Doing the same as you kinda..waiting US immigration living in Ontario getting married and living in PA when we get the ok from immigration..

I made a couple trips down looked at venues florists and bakeries.Settled on all 3..Im stressed over hair and make-up tho bc im not moving down till a few weeks if not a week before..so??

Ask lots of ?s on here or ask fi’s friends wives coworkers etc..youve met that seems to have similar tastes and ask them questions. I love fmil but her tastes and mine not the same kwim?

Im frusturated too..Vent away..:(

Post # 21
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m planning a wedding that’s 2000 miles away with a 3.5 month engagement. The distance has made it a little more difficult. Luckily that is where my parents live and they’ve been helpful. We also took one trip out there and booked the venue and photographer during that trip. I knew the DJ and florist from when they did my sister’s wedding. We haven’t met the minister or videographer yet, so hopefully we like them in person!

My main challenge is going to be packing everything to fly on the plane. I’ve had so many DIY projects and purchased so many things! Hopefully everything fits and hopefully our bags make it! We’re taking our little pup on the plane with us too (she’s in the wedding!), so wish us luck! We leave in 2 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck to all of you!

Post # 22
1445 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re getting married in Nashville (where we’re both from) but we’re going to graduate school out west. We got engaged this summer while we were home and I picked out my dress immediately since I knew I wanted my mom with me and I only had a few days left in Nashville. I booked my venue about a month ago, which I haven’t seen in person, but my mom went several times and took pictures for me.

The photographer is the hardest part for me right now. I have it narrowed down to 2 (they each sent me a gallery of a recent wedding they shot), so I guess the tie-breaker will be how I get along with them on the phone since I won’t be home again until Christmas break. I really hate not being able to meet them in person before I hire them.

The whole long distance planning is much harder than I ever anticipated-part of me wishes I had waited until we moved back home after graduate school because I really feel like I’m missing out on some of the excitement of wedding planning. I didn’t get to go look at venues or interview photographers or roam craft stores with my mom. Instead, I’m surfing the internet every night while trying to complete my thesis and apply for jobs. Oh well, at least I’m getting married 🙂

Post # 23
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m planning my wedding all the way across the Atlantic ocean! So far things have been going well. I did my internet research, and we looked at venues etc this summer. We got the venue, hotel, caterer, cake, DJ and photo sorted out. I also ordered my dress. 

I am corresponding on the final decisions for our invitations with our stationer. So all we must-have-need is a florist for decorations/bouquets, and I need to figure out how to arrange for my dress alterations. 

It’s helpful that Fiance is in the same time-zone, though not local. I do most of the e-mailing, and he gets to do the follow-up phone calls. 😉

Post # 24
17 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m planning a NY wedding from Australia… It’s completely backwards timewise so even phone interviews/meetings are hard sometimes.  The internet is a blessing.  Our venue was easy as I’ve been to plenty of events with their caterer and my cousin/bm works with them, which helps.  My family has been awesome.  They’ve gone to bridal shows, met with vendors, collected and posted swatches… Photography was really important to me so it was the first thing I researched and I picked up a lot of my other vendors through the photog’s blogs.  Hair and makeup for example – every time I was on a blog and thought a bride looked amazing it turned out to be the same people.  Ask the vendors you trust.  They’ll have recommendations.

Post # 25
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are also planning a wedding from a distance. We live north of Boston, Fiance family is from Oklahoma and mine live outside Baltimore where our wedding is–that is about the only thing saving us. Our dresses are living at my mother’s house for the time being and we just have to get them up here for alterations and then back down in one piece. Our venue is taking care of the photographer, food, reception and flowers and since we’ve done events with them before we know their quality. We literally have to take care of favors, invitations, clothing, cabin bookings and show up. Favors are more or less figured out, invitations are selected, clothing is being bought as we find sales and people are in the midst of booking their cabins. We can’t wait for our hometown-destination wedding!

Post # 26
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Its not too bad, but my venue is four hours away. So I can’t just decide to go over one afternoon. Next time we go will be in October and we’re going to try to find a cake!

Post # 27
3240 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@thursdayschild: Our wedding was planned long distance and in my opinion turned out perfect for us. The venue had a preferred vendors list which helped a lot. All vendors I either communicated with via e-mail or phone. We planned a trip to Asheville about 5 months before the wedding and met with the minister, photographer and did a food tasting all in the span of 2 days. So if it’s in your budget, you could do your research online, talk to folks over the phone and then schedule a trip to meet with your top contenders. Some vendors I dealt with entirely by e-mail and phone.

Post # 29
4044 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Nicoley1985: This scares me a bit. Everything is booked?  I am in OH and hoping to finally plan a wedding for next year in either the Lehigh Valley or Reading area.

Post # 30
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m planning for Philly/NJ and am in SWVA. It’s been very difficult and I have a lot of trouble believing that it’s even going to happen at this point.

Good luck to the rest of you!

Post # 31
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@thursdayschild: Same boat!  My fiance lived in central NJ; I live in New York and we’ll be planning our wedding in Atlanta.  That’s where we’re both from.

However, both of our immediate families live down there, so I know I can recruit my mother and sister, and his mom and two sisters, to do reconaissance for me.  Because they live down there, flying down and meeting with photographers and other vendors will work out because I can just stay with my family.  However, I really want to hire a wedding planner, which is part of the reason our engagement is so long – to save!

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