Post # 1
So, I’m planning a wedding from 600 miles away in my hometown. My mother, a SAHW, is thankfully doing most the on the ground planning with our coordinator. I’m very grateful, but for some reason, I feel really left out. Like, my parents mentioned they would be attending a wedding expo and it hit me. I wanted to waste my whole day looking at too many wedding booths! I cope with it by coming on here and feeling “weddingy”, but I still like I’m missing out… Any tips? Am I being petty? Should I just be happy not to be dealing with the stress?
Post # 3
Is there a way you can get a bit more involved?
I’d probably be upset too. Like on one hand it’s nice to not deal with the stress, but at the same time, you’re also missing out on the fun.
Are there any things you really want in the wedding? Like maybe your color scheme, or a specific photographer you’d really like etc. That could be your way of putting your own touches on it. Is there anything you’d like your mom to look for specifically at this expo? Get her to send you real-time photos/updates, and then you can help her select different things for your wedding.
Post # 4
How much time do you have? If you have tons of free time and want to get more involved, just have your mom/coordinator take pictures of everyone and have daily conference calls with them to talk about it. If you don’t have as much time, can you split up responsibilities? For instance, your mom can handle stuff like the venue and you can pick out all the flowers. Flowers are really easy to plan from far away because it’s mostly finding pictures of bouquets, centerpieces, etc. that you love and sending it to the florist (whoever your mom picks?). And you can visit your local flower shop for ideas because calla lillies look the same anywhere in the world. A lot of wedding planning stuff can actually be done pretty easily from a distance. Other suggestions of things you can do: dress shopping, picking out BM and GM outfits, and invitations. Just because you aren’t in the same city doesn’t mean you can’t go to a wedding expo where you live for ideas!