Post # 1
I just posted something similar but to attract other bees who live abroad… if you planned a wedding back home (NYC for me), how did you do it?
I’m considering hiring a wedding planner to avoid having to make trips back home. I’m literally a 24 hour trip away and I have a full time job and can’t exactly make multiple trips and then go home again for the actual wedding.
Tell me how you handled it!!
Post # 3
I am also planning from abroad. I live in Korea. Where do you live?
I’m mostly relying on my Future Mother-In-Law as she lives where the wedding will be. Also, the venue we’re using was where my FSIL/MOH was married, so she’s kind of showing us the ropes. Do you have family or friends in your wedding location?
Post # 4
I planned my whole wedding abroad and without a wedding planner. Everything was booked sight unseen using the internet research and email. I didn’t find it stressful at all. I think the key is finding repuatble and well reviewed vendors!
Post # 5
I’m planning from Vietnam. My mom is my eyes, and we just booked our venue (sight unseen of course). We’re not using a planner, all of our caterers were just contacting via email and our photographer has set up a Skype date with us. We will be home in November though, so we will have 6 months to plan when we get home.
Post # 6
I live in Scotland and am getting married in NYC, I have only been there once and won’t be there until a couple days before the wedding, I am scared!! I have no one there to go see stuff and report back so I will just have to book over Internet photos etc. Where are you getting married in NYC? I think my wedding might be in October 2014 also!
Post # 7
I planned our Boston wedding from our home in Australia, thanks to a very wonderful wedding planner. HIRE ONE if you can swing it. She was the best investment we made. It wasn’t just the distance that we found tricky; it was the time difference. Trying to get vendors on the phone when you have a 14- to 16-hour time difference was just not happening. She took care of all the vendor negotiations and communication, and then would send us detailed emails at the end of her day, which we’d get right as we were waking up. We basically planned the whole thing over email, and it worked perfectly. We did take one trip to Boston during the engagement to do some essential stuff in person, but otherwise, it was totally doable from afar — with a planner!
Post # 8
thanks for the feedback guys!
@AlwaysSunny: I do have family and friends but my family isn’t exactly typical and they know nothing about weddings and while they are so generous w both time and money, I’m not sure I can rely on them to properly figure things out. Besides, they’re in their 60’s and have their own lives. As for my friends… I’m hesitant to ask because they’re all single and I dont’ feel right imposing MY wedding onto them
@j_jaye: I’m so impressed by how calm you were! Did you have a coordinator on the day off to handle all the vendors or did your venue coordinator everything? I’m nervous about blank slate places where I’ll have to bring in multiple vendors.
@wwbga: I haven’t settled on a venue yet.. I’m getting together all the prices now but it looks like fall is pretty pricey!! Good luck!! Bizbash and weddingwire have been helpful so far!
@SydneyScribbler: I sent THIS post to my fiance hahah, thanks! May I ask how much your planner charged for full service planning? If it’s private, no worries. Just want to make sure I have reasonable expectations!
Post # 9
@AlwaysSunny: You are planning from Korea? Do you teach ESL or do something else? Also can we be best friends, because I’m pretty sure I’m going to be planning a New York wedding from Korea pretty soon…
Post # 10
Yep, I teach ESL at a university in Chungcheongbukdo. You too?!
Where do you live? I hope you’ll be planning soon! We can stress together!
Post # 11
@AlwaysSunny: I teach at an elementary school in northern Daegu! 😀 If you want me to start planning sooner you should talk to my SO 😉 I hope I start soon too. There are hints… (Don’t even start me about the secret wedding folder on my computer.)
Post # 12
I’m planning from NL for a wedding in delaware. The best thing for me has been having an all-in-one venue with an event coordinator included. I expected her services to be limited to things within the venue, but at our food tasting she even offered to check out a tailor that I found to maybe do my dress fitting. Definitely be upfront with vendors that you are working with serious distance.. they tended to be more open with sharing their price lists with me. If they are hard to communicate with via e-mail, don’t hire them!
Post # 13
I seriously considered hiring a wedding planner (planning from Australia, wedding will be in America with my family) because I was getting so stressed out and it was becoming really difficult to communicate with vendors that preferred phone calls and in-person meetings to emails. But a planner was definitely NOT in the budget, I realised, after I got a few quotes. So I asked my mother and sister for help, and thankfully, they have been able to do most of the things I can’t. I’m still doing all the planning, but they are taking care of anything that needs to be done in person. If you have someone “on the ground” who can help you, definitely take advantage of it.
Post # 14
It’s nice to hear there are so many of us here! We’re in London, but planning a wedding in Philadelphia. We’ve chosen a venue sight unseen which I’m going to visit while home for a week in August. Hopefully we still love it! I’m fairly laid back and don’t need an OMG PERFECT day, I just want it to be super fun and filled with smiles and good times.
I don’t think we have a budget for a wedding planner. The venue has an in-house coordinator, so am hoping that she’s as lovely as the reviews say she is!
Post # 15
we have to have a 2nd wedding in new york with my family and I’m putting it off because planning from here (denmark) is a pain in the arse and we’re only 6 hours ahead.