Post # 1
I know lots of Bees are planning out of state or cross country weddings, but has anyone planned a wedding in their home country while living overseas?
I’m from California, but living in Australia. We are going home in two weeks time to plan the wedding and then may not actually get back to California until the wedding week. Has anyone else done something like this? Did you do it all on your own or do you think we need to hire a wedding coordinator or at the very least a DOC?
Guess I’m just looking for reassurance that this can be done and I won’t go crazy in the process!
Post # 3
I had my Mom arrange everything. I am in Japan and the wedding will be in the US. I tried to call a few places for locations, otherwise I am depending on her to get things right. ^_^
Post # 4
I think this will give all time fun by having marriage out of your place, Isn’t it very excited?
Post # 5
@adw2c: Wow, you sound very laid back about it. I think I need to get in to that mindframe, too! I just need to realize that everything isn’t going to look exactly like I’ve planned it in my head (probably wouldn’t even if I was in CA the whole time) but I need to trust my family, friends, and the people I hire will know what I like, like you are doing with your Mom.
Post # 6
I am living in Melbourne, AUS and will be getting married in January in Seattle. I went home in December and planned EVERYTHING I could, including ordering a dress, so that I wouldn’t feel the pressure to go home again before the wedding.
Becasue I won’t be near my vendors, I picked vendors that I knew that were wonderful, and I picked venues that had their own coordinators. I ended up paying more then I could have, but I will get more out of the venues/vendors because of the extra money. I also picked a church and reception venue that have plenty of character and won’t need a lot of decorating, in order to cut down on DIY.
For centrepieces, I decided that I wanted white milk glass vases, and heaps of them. I am lucky my mothers friends love antiqueing. They have gotten me all of them I could need or ever want and hand them to my parents (who live in Seattle) to store until the wedding. I have another one of my mother’s friends who is going to be doing all of the flowers for the centrepieces.
As for Bridesmaids: they are all living all over the world, as are our groomsmen. We are giving them a color and just being ok with having different shades of that color for the bridesmaids dresses and the groomsmen’s suits.
I am having a friend work as the DOC, to make sure everything gets done.
I still have a long way to go but I am getting there. The big things I have to figure out is the best (and cheapest!) way to send out invites, since most of them will be going to the US or Canada.
That all said, you can do it. I don’t think it will be that bad as long as you pick venues and vendors who respond well and even better if you have been to events in the past there.
Post # 7
I’m also in Japan planning for my wedding in my FI’s hometown. We are relying on his mom and sisters at the moment to secure placesl, etc but will actually be moving back in time to start planning on our own. However, a friend of mine who left Japan last year planned a wedding completely from here and got married as soon as she moved back. Luckily her now-husband and mom were both in the US and did a lot of the major lifting for her- her husband even scoped out dresses for her! As long as you have dedicated family members, it can work out without a planner or anything, I think.
Post # 8
Oooo! I’m in Melbourne planning for June 2012 in NY (engaged to a kiwi). I’m managing the planning okay but miss being home to be able to do it all with everyone else. We’ll head home for Christmas 2011 to get a lot of things out of the way – dress shopping, meeting with vendors, engagement shoot, organizing ceremony stuff, etc… SO much to do. I was thinking for invites that I’ll probably ship them home in a parcel for my family to stamp and post for me. There are tons of those little things to sort.
Latest problem – BMs want to throw me a shower while we’re home but I’m not sure how that would work with registering/gifts. Any ideas on that? Maybe we could have a bridal planning brunch in Mellie sometime? 🙂
Post # 9
Wow, didnt know that this was so common… I’m ALSO another bride planning a wedding in the states from Japan. I have a mother and step mother in the state that the wedding is in and they’re amazing at being the go-between for all the vendors that I have investigated. I will be going back to the states in October- but that;s it! I wont be back until the wedding (2 years later!) During this trip home we will be doing a cake tasting, looking at venues, and finding my dress. My parents will be delivering deposits, meeting with vendor, doing food and drink tastings, ect. Oh and the vendor that we;re 95% sure we will be going with comes with a coordinator and she is awesome and sounds as excited about our wedding as we are! I may seem crazy for doing everything so early, but it allows me to have every thing done and shipped to the states in plenty of time! 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
We did it! We got married in Sydney but I did the majority of our planning from London, where we were living up until a few months before the wedding.
The earlier you can get things ticked off your list, the better!
Post # 11
That’s basically the same situation I’m in. I’m planning my wedding for Toronto, but from Kuwait. I’m home for the month and am trying to get a ton done. I also just decided to get a planner because it was wayyyy too stressful and I was only a week in.
Post # 12
Ladies who are going back to the States and plan on getting your dress there…where are you going to get it altered? Bring it back with you or buy it, get the alterations started there, and then finished a week or two before the wedding when you head back to the States? That’s the latest logistical thing I’ve been stuck on.
Post # 13
I’m doing the same thing – I am in Japan and planning a wedding in the US. I’m not sure when I will be back to the US or how long I will have there to scope things like venues and such. I don’t know if I should try to find a dress in Japan and ship it or hope to find one needing minimal alterations in the states. Any other suggestions or things that have been helpful?
Post # 13
Hi just wondering how you coordinated the attire for your wedding party? – ie. bridesmaid dresses and tuxes. Our wedding is a destination wedding and our wedding party lives in 4 different countries…