Post # 1
First I want to say I absolutely love that there is a waiting board and that all the ladies have somewhere to chat in anticipation and that they actually “graduate” when they get engaged. So jealous!
I’m curious, how many people began officially planning without the ring? We definitely planned pre-ring, although we only notified a few people that we were engaged. The reason we started pre-planning was simple, we knew we were getting married. I got the crazy notion that it had to be on NYE and HAD to be at one venue. PERIOD. They had the date and both ballrooms to select from. We ended up getting the one we wanted and I’m so glad that we did because literally within days of us securing our date, the other room booked.
We also selected the majority of vendors before the official proposal.
There were somethings I just wouldn’t do without the announcement, ie. my dress.
I wish I had a board like this to vent and celebrate during that time. It was so exciting, yet I had to hold back for fear of people thinking I was insane.
So…who else planned before it became official? How much did you plan and what was everyone’s reaction when you finally spilled the beans?
Post # 3
We set a date and booked our venue before I had the ring. Some of my friends thought I was crazy – especially my other engaged friend – but in my area, you gotta get on that s**t early or you’ll get shut out.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
We brainstormed pre-ring. We ended up doing something TOTALLY different than what we first imagined, though.
Post # 5
The only pre-planning I will do before the actual engagement is research research research!! Oh, and we’ve picked the date. Other than that, I (personally) do not feel comfortable doing anything official. However, once that ring is on my finger, I will go into overdrive! 🙂
Post # 6
I already had the date, ceremony and reception location, photographer, and hotel rooms block booked before my fiance officially asked and gave me a ring. He had ordered a ring to be custom made (I knew this was happening), but it was taking longer than originally anticipated. He knew I wanted to get married next summer and wanted close to a year to plan as locations in our area are booked well in advance, so he asked my dad for his blessing and once that was done, he told me I could start planning (which my mom and I certainly did!). It was so cute though that he was still nervous when he proposed two months later eventhough he knew exactly what my answer was going to be!
Post # 7
We talked to our parents about it before the ring because we had to talk budget. If they couldn’t help us have a biggish wedding in town, we were thinking of eloping on the beach. Once my mom was in, she was all about calling her vendor friends to get estimates which led to booking the venue because her friend offered it for free. The ring came within a couple weeks and by then word had spread so I don’t think anyone was surprised. Oh well!
Post # 8
It’s all research for me too. The most I’ve done is work on the backyard because it *might* be used for a reception and it’s a mess, and clean some of the vintage glass jars from my parents’ collection because they’re a mess too. But both those things are nice to do anyway. Nothing counts until he’s in on the planning. 🙂
Post # 9
I totally look at what i want, pretty much planning my “dream” wedding. at least i’ll be prepared when the time comes! my SO and i occasionally talk about what we both want, theres no enagement yet though.
Post # 10
I did some research but mostly as to decor and dresses and rings… not anything about vendors. I wish I had done more! I’ve been engaged now almost 2 months and I still have no idea what I want. lol
Post # 11
i’m just researching. all my ideas will be up for review and discussion once we’re officially engaged because it is supposed to be reflective of us. but since i’m expecting a short engagment, any research i can get done now will pay off in the end!
Post # 12
i’m all research right now. lol i have an idea of what i want and everytime i run it by M he either thinks i’m crazy or hde doesn’t like it lol! so i think i’ll have to start all over when it’s time because i’m not sure how he’ll like anything i like.
Post # 13
We had our photographer, caterer, rentals, and a bunch of other stuff before the ring. Basically, almost all the big stuff! I wouldn’t change it at all – it has made our actual engagement much easier!
Post # 14
I’ve been doing research for about a year now- but that’s just the kind of person I am. I plan everything! If I actually use any of the research for my actual wedding, is another question.
Post # 15
Before Fiance were engaged, I knew it was coming. He was gone for 5 weeks in the beginning of the year, so to help time pass, I did a LOT of research.
When we actually got engaged, some of the excitement was gone. I urge you to try to hold off as long as you can!
Post # 16
We are planning, and aren’t officially engaged! We already have the deposit on our venue, I bought my dress, my shoes arrived, but have to exchange them for a smaller size!, and have a lot of the other stuff planned too!