- 4 years ago
So I have a bit of a different situation on my hands.
My partner and I have been together for 15 months, and we’ve talked about getting married for quite a while (I guess, when you know, you know, right?)
I just found out he asked my father for his blessing over Canadian Thanksgiving weekend. Dad really approves of my dear man so it’s a go. I don’t think DM needed Dad’s approval, but it was important to me to be respectful. (YAAAY!)
So we’ve been talking about what we want for our wedding and generalities for the past week. <br />Intially I wanted him to pick out my engagement ring and I was just giving him ideas. I do tend to react to nickel, so we were going over titanium, palladium, and platinum options. We also didn’t feel the need for a diamond, so we were considering moissanite or white sapphire. On Saturday we went to the mall and was able to get our ring sizes and compare a moissy, white sapphire and a diamond. He was REALLY stressed over whether or not I’d like the ring, and I was resisting knowing which one he was getting (because I like surprises.)
In the end, he wasn’t feeling comfortable buying something without knowing I’d LOVE it. I was hesistant to see the ring, but I realized that he did have a point and since I wanted to have matching wedding bands that I should investigate. Needless to say I LOOOOVE the ring. It’s titanium with a forever brilliant moissy in a tension setting. The band we decided on for him is two toned (black & traditional titanium). So my wedding band is black titanium. I am SUPER excited.
The problem is, I have NO idea when he’ll propose. It could be Christmas, it could be Valentine’s Day, it could be in April. I’m in my last year of university so he’s really pushing me to excel and focus on my schoolwork. I have SUCH a case of wedding brain though. There are so MANY ideas and details to sort through.
What we’ve decided.
1) The Rings
2) Intimate wedding (Immediate family & close friends = 20 or so guests)
3) Reception at a family home, preferably at his parent’s lakehouse.
4) We’re finding a condo or apartment over the summer (He lives with his older brother and I’m in dorm – we lived together last summer*)
*It’s a LDR, so we have 2 and a half hours between us while I’m taking classes. His city doesn’t have the course I’m taking. We visit each other on alternating weekends.
The Real Question: Does anyone else suffer from wedding brain? How do you focus on regular life? I feel like it’s so amazing and I’m SOOO happy!! I started crying during an intimate moment because I just can’t get over that I get to marry such an amazing person. He’s really supportive, but well, he’s a guy so he’s a bit less concerned by the wedding.