Post # 1
lower my expectations of people. I’m so disappointed with one of my BMs, I’ve b*tched about her before, but I don’t have the balls to ask her to step down. My Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) has been doing such a great job, and my Bridesmaid or Best Man who lives in town hasn’t offered an ounce of help. My stagette is this weekend (weekend trip to Banff and staying in a lodge), and my sister has been running around like crazy, trying to get everything organized. Since my other Bridesmaid or Best Man is flying in, I’m picking her up from the airport, and my sis will already be in Banff setting everything up. Bridesmaid or Best Man I’m upset with asked if she could get a ride with me because she doesn’t want to drive and her boyfriend “insists” on picking her up on Sunday. That’s fine, but why not go with my sister, and help her set up. She’s not working so she has time to go early. Now I have to go out of my way and pick her up too…Sounds trivial, but I’m so annoyed! So I’m trying to remember that I have to lower my standards of people…obviously.
What has planning your wedding made you realize?
Post # 3
Weddings really do bring out the best and worst in people.
I’ve been incredibly lucky to have an incredibly dedicated mom and dad who have been absolutely amazing through the whole process. My aunts have also surprised me with their excitement and interest.
But the best man and some of FI’s family? He’s a bit upset with their lack of participation, attention and other issues. It’s sad to see some people’s bad sides when you really need them the most.
We’ve really figured out who our real friends are, which is kind of a blessing in disguise.
Post # 4
Has made me realize that my friends and family are totally chill and awesome. I cannot believe the drama and stuff I read on here sometimes! From controlling MILs, bitchy sisters, limelight stealing cousins, general hatred between family members, lazy/selffish friends that wont even jsut order a dress on time, and so on and so on… holy cow. My life is a boring puddle compared to this! No trouble from in laws regarding guest list, money, anything, no drama in my family, everyone got a long great, 99.5% of people gave a gift/card, no wedding party drama, or complaints. Not a peep of negativity. The worse I had to deal with was picking a date b/c of superstitions… which every Asian has to deal with.
Post # 5
…realize that I am normally very controlling/anxious! I remind myself WEEKLY DAILY that “I can’t control anything other than how I react” because I was making myself crazy when I was beginning my planning! I can’t control how people behave, or what the weather will be like, or who will be happy with what decisions we’ve made… but I CAN control how I react. It will be my “best advice” to any newly engaged bee:)
Post # 6
@pinkshoes: LOL! I’m a halfer and my grandma was NOT happy with October 22 – 2+2=4…sigh.
Post # 7
@Ryansgirl: haha. Isnt that so random and crazy! Does that mean that 31 and 13 of any month is out too! I mean, I can kinda buy why they dont want the 4 in it, its a 4, theres no denyimg it. But to break down how numbers add up to get to something bad luck?? Now youre just LOOKING for ways to make life more difficult! lol, it drives me nuts, but I just go along with it, theres no use arguing. At least you got to keep your date.. .once its declared as bad, there was no negotiations.
Post # 8
Realize I need to focus on what I want and not what other people would like to see or like me to do. My wedding is going to be different and I need to get over the part where I ask for opinons that might make me second guess myself.
Post # 9
realise that after the wedding I miss the hope and excitement. It’s helped me make decisions that effect me (be more selfish)
Post # 10
Really wanna say I told you so to my Fiance about eloping….