(Closed) Planning our wedding really bumming me out :(

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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7433 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

“Am I wrong to think they have plenty of money and it would not hurt them financially to help?”

Yep, you’re pretty much wrong. No one is entitled to having someone else finance their wedding. On the positive side, if you’re not taking their money, you don’t have to listen to their commentary. 

Post # 17
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1779 posts
Buzzing bee

solsticegirl:  this is a hard lesson in life but better you learn now: never count on money you don’t have in hand! His mother sucks for not keeping her word, but it’s her money and you have no right to it. Don’t plan a wedding you can’t afford. And with that said– you have every right to put your new Mother-In-Law in her place any time she brings up money! She has 0 right to stick her nose in any decisions or the guest list. And I speak from experience when saying 🙂 you will get a lot of satisfaction out of putting her in her place! haha, demand respect and let her know she won’t be able to manipulate your life. The good part is that she can’t use money to control your marriage now. And putting your foot down now will help imensely when you have kids.

Post # 18
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893 posts
Busy bee

ok, I agree it sucks if they said they would contribute to a $25k wedding and then backed out.  but why are you including your honeymoon? it’s a vacation. pay for it yourself. have it the following year or later than that. it’s a luxury, not a right. 

Post # 19
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Worker bee

I read your post and wanted to cry- planning a wedding on your own is sooo hard. Although we had a ton of support, I still tried to cut all costs where I could. I saved on average probably around $5-8K becuase I did a ton of research. I would love to share with you if you are interesed. 

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