Post # 1

Member
8 posts
Newbee
Hi All!
So our day is approaching quickly and we are trying to get everything planned but one aspect we are having difficulty with is the ceremony. We are not religious and are planning to have my uncle get ordained and marry us. The question that I have is now that we have decided that – where do we go from here on the timeline and planning of the ceremony? When my uncle gets ordained do they teach him what to do, things to say, or do we? Basically, when you are having a family member or friend get ordained to marry you what are the steps after making that decision in planning the ceremony?
Any and all suggestions are helpful!
Thanks!
Post # 3

Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
Pick up a copy of the “The Wedding Ceremony Planner” by Judith Johnson (I am pretty sure that is her name) for both yourself and your uncle and then google ceremonies and readings until you put together what is meaningful for you. I think her book will probably be the best best place to start
Post # 4

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2344 posts
Buzzing bee
If your uncle is getting ordained just for the ceremony, it will be basically a paper certificate and nothing else, so he won’t have much more idea what to do after he’s ordained than before! There are a lot of resources online, though. Just google “sample nondenominational ceremony” or “sample secular ceremony” and you will come up with oodles of examples. You can mix and match the parts you like, or use them as inspiration to write something of your own. You can basically do whatever you want as long as you both say that you agree to marry the other!