(Closed) Planning this wedding is not as much fun as I thought it would be – Vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

{{hugs}}

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Awwww, I know how you feel, most wedding planning has its bumps.  It is about you and him. period.  So hoping tomorrow is better for you.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

@VegasSukie:

Just wondering-if you do choose to help the person/people getting evicted, are they going to get into the same situation again?  It’s great to help people out that really need it.  I’ve just seen people that lose one place after another. Enjoy sharing your wedding ideas with us, and surprising the rest of your guests. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m sorry your FI’s family is not cooperating with your plans. As far as family members asking to borrow money that you can’t afford to lend, I think it’s perfectly fine to say NO.

The Destination Wedding in Jamaica sounds fabulous, what part of Jamaica are you getting married in?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@VegasSukie: Im so sorry that this is happening to you. You are going to have to try and do a few things…. Learn to say “Its Our Wedding” and “No”.

I agree with Creativeplannertobee… If you give this family member this money, whats going to happen the next time and it will be closer to your wedding? I know people fall on hard times BUT there has got to be a limit especially when you are always the person rescuing her.

As far as your FI’s family is concerned, you have to do whats best for the 2 of you and if they dont like it, too bad

 

HOPE THIS HELPS…HUGS YOUR WAY

 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

Sorry to hear. I know all about “needy” family members and evictions (you can PM for details – i know what your going thru). Thing is people will survive just fine without your help. Clearly I don’t know the details but I had to recently come to terms that people keep going to the well until they run it dry. Your are not responsible for their lack of poor planning and decision making. I’m afraid that after the wedding, they are still going to look to you for rescue. You have your new baby family to worry about and put first.

Next year when we plan our larger affair, I already know that a certain family member is going to be up in arms about what we are spending. Because she seems to think my last name is Trump and she excepts me to rescue her every time she creates her latest mess. She has a misguided perception about my financial means, which are simply none of her business.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am on the same boat! My fiance and his family are from Chicago area and my family and I are from California. My fiance and I met in my home town in Monterey, so we decided it would be best to have our wedding in Monterey, CA. Well she has not been happy about that. Talking to all his relatives, basically making him worry that no one will show up, especially when his mom’s reaction to the news of it being in CA was “Well I probably wont ocme then, so I will just send a big present!” That devistated my fiance. Then all my BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor have been MIA this whole time, makign it extramely hard to plan the wedding, when I live overseas.

Venting is good! Update us on how things are going! Just remember that you two are in love and at the end of the day, that is all that matters. I know so much easier said than done, but we both need to try! xoxox

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