Post # 1
I wasn’t sure where else to put this, so mods please move if it should be in a different category.
I just got engaged, and Fiance and I are considering September 2014 for our wedding. He is working on his Ph.D., we need to save money, there are a lot of reasons for waiting. Regardless, I am stumped on when I should actually start “planning.” Most timelines are a year long, but obviously I don’t want to wait until September 2013 to book the venue, I hope to do that early 2013. But for everythign else… dress… bridesmaid picking… bridesmaid dresses… photographer. Does anyone have any insight for a longer engagement, when it would be appropriate to tackle planning decisions? Right now the Fiance is sort of skeptical why we need to start early 2013 but I’d prefer getting 2013 prices and prime availbility! Thanks!
Post # 3
I think that one of the major disadvantages to a long engagement is that while you have a lot of time to plan/prepare/saveyour opinion may change over time and you may regret early decisions later.
We’re having a 2 year engagement as well, and I’ve told everyone that I’m not telling anyone they’re in the bridal party or anything until a year or less out. Because relationships change in 2 years and I don’t want to deal with the drama down the line.
That said, if you think you have a pretty concrete idea of what you want, now’s a good time to start on DIYs. Also buying rings is something that’s good to do now, as your finger size isn’t likely to change.
Post # 4
@MissHobbit: Yeah, that’s my problem/ why I’m holding off! 🙂 I think I want to take care of the venue 18 months out, but everything else can wait until a year. It would just be great to have a great for certain! Once the venue is set, everything else will come together :)Love your username, btw!!
Post # 5
@love108: Our engagement was three years out.
Book people and places early – our photographer gave us a $500 discount for booking early, and we got the venue and caterer we wanted for the price we wanted.
I agree about waiting on the attendents – we spent so much time being excited at the beginning that by the time the wedding rolled around, it was hard for anyone but me to care.
Do your DIYs early – I agree. I had my invitations sitting in a box in my mom’s basement for a full year before I needed them, and that was fabulous! Everyone else was scrambling to get the invites done and I just threw mine in the mail.
Really do save the dress buying until closer to. We had much bridemsaid dress frustration, and mine really should have been one size larger.
Post # 6
If the vendors will let you book early, you can certainly do it. I’d be wary about the potential for changing your mind or wishing you hadn’t booked so early though. Say you book one and 6 months later stumble across someone better/or a better deal and wish you wouldn’t have booked someone so early. I would say the venue and the photographer are something you can book earlier than anything else. Otherwise, you might as well wait until a year out. The cake baker (for example) isn’t going to be all booked for your date 2 years in advance! You will still be getting 2013 prices in October just as you will in January.
Certainly don’t pick a bridal party or Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses 2 years out. I won’t even go look for my own Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses until 9 months before! I’d honestly wait until 1 year for your dress.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! You’ve echoed my thoughts, so I feel good about it!
Post # 8
We’re having a 4 year engagement. We booked our venue this summer and we are hoping to book photography very soon. Things in my area tend to book very fast; so if you’re in one of those places, book your importants asap. I do go dress shopping a few months ago because I couldn’t wait any longer! I have my bridal party in mind, but I haven’t asked anyone yet. Ditto everything else that PP have said that I missed!