- 5 years ago
I know alot of people who approve of this, and alot who do not.
I need input to gain some perspective.
Some background on my SO and I so some Bees may help make an opinion.
My SO and I have been together 3 years this April. We are very happy together, and last year we moved in together, and its been great. I love having that relationship that is pretty argument-free, and that 50/50 equality is hard to come by.
He was married before, 18 and stupid, as he says. He was truely miserable, and after 6 years of trying and going to a marriage counselor, he left her and filed for divorce. They divorced shortly before he and I met. Because of all the money issues and such, he said he will never get married again Cut to years later, he said he would get married again, but he would do things differently. He would not have joint accounts and credit cards–I am more than fine with that. He would live with someone before marriage–We already are. He would have a kid before getting married–Wait, what??
I don’t understand why people want to have kids before marriage. Having a kid to deal with the wedding planning, and finding a sitter and stuff for the honeymoon could possibly be a apain in the ass.
I dont want to,partly because of shit i would possibly hear from family, i.e. older people. but if we made a timeline, like were having a kid now, and getting married when the baby is _ old, I couls possibly go for that.