I am a big believer that the “Proposal” of getting Married should not be something that comes out of the blue
The proposal (in so much as it is an idea) should be something that is discussed in an ongoing fashion via an exchange of conversations & LIFE PLANS
Have you guys had a serious talk about the future, and the LIFE PLANS that each of you have… and where they might overlap ??
Another words, have you shared what you SEE in the future 1, 3, 5, 10 years down the road for yourselves (as individuals)
Example… By the time I am __ I’d like to be finished school. By __ established in my career. By __ Engaged, by __ Married. Then progressing along in my job, maybe buy a house… and by __ think of starting a family, etc.
That is a LIFE PLAN
You share yours, and then you LISTEN to what the other person has to say about theirs. After that you have a better idea if you are on the same wave length, or not.
IF you are on the same wave length in regards to Engagement, Marriage, Kids… and have had mushy off the cuff talks about “someday” (as in, someday when we are older / Engaged / Married / Have Kids it would be cool to ___ “) then you are in good shape.
A Proposal shouldn’t come as a total surprise to either of you, in so much as the other person will be turning you down.
BUT all that known…
You should probably still talk some more about the REAL possibility.
Is it customary / traditional in her family to talk with her Father / Family / Elder… to either Ask for Permission to Marry, or a Blessing of the Marriage
Have you asked about how she feels about ERings? Would she prefer to be surprised (rare these days) or to give you ideas of what she likes, or to go shopping together ?
In the very least, a girl should go try on rings on her own to see what suits her (cause just like clothes, not every dress off the rack is going to suit every woman… and this is something she has to wear 24/7×365 forever, so for both your sakes, you BOTH need to LOVE it unconditionally)
There are soooo many ways to become Engaged these days… every girl / relationship is different…
The ONLY THING that all Engagements have in common is someone actually asked “Will You Marry Me”
Hope this helps,