Post # 1
My Fiance says its never too early… but is it too early to start my planning and sign contracts with vendors? It seems every time I mention my wedding date 10.4.14 to vendors, I either get no response or the vendor does not take my inquiry seriously. My Fiance and I had planned to sign contracts for venue and catering, lock in 2012 prices, and begin making monthly payments from now until the wedding. But since we can’t get a serious answer from too manyvendors in the DC, MD, VA area, we may have to rethink this strategy.Have any of you had any problems like this?
Post # 3
@StephanieElise: I’m thinking you might have better luck at the end of this year/early 2013, when they’ve booked 2013 and are looking beyond. I would just keep contacting them until they can focus on that year, I could see why it’d be hard since it is far away. Maybe if you make it clear you’re very interested and ready to sign/make a deposit/payment they might take you more seriously? I’m sorry! I am also 2014 (waiting on engagement still) but I know I’m going to want to start making things set asap!
Post # 4
in my opinion, yes way too early. Wait until earlly next year.
Post # 5
Way too early to do serious matters (for me)
. You can play around with colors and themes-make guest lists, visit various venues. But I would never buy a dress or book a vendor. Plus several years from now I would not know where my finances would be or what life would bring- putting down deposits is risky.
Post # 6
I dont think its too early! I am going to go book my venue in a couple weeks, so I can lock in 2012 prices! I started making things and planning things too. I need to know how much I plan on spending ahead of time. Also, I can’t wait that long to start planning, its over 2 years away! UGH! lol
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Planning that far in advance can be dangerous– not only for you, but for the vendor. As you mentioned, you want to lock in prices now… well a vendor doesn’t want to do that because their pricing structure can change a lot in 2 years. Also, as you mentioned, they can’t be sure if you’re serious, and committing to a date that far in advance leaves a lot of time for one or both of you to change your minds.
But their business can also go through a lot in 2 years– keep in mind that this is a pretty tough industry, so in 2 years some of those vendors might go out of business.
Instead of trying to lock everything in and make monthly payments, I would recommend putting that money into savings until you are closer to your date (between 12-18 out from your date) and start tlaking to vendors then.
In the mean time, I’d focus on researching exactly what you want, colors, styles, themes, etc. Look into venues, etc. but don’t lock anything in until you’re closer.
Post # 8
I have had a dress for a year and a half, and am getting married in October of 2013. I say it’s not too early to start any time consuming DIY projects, I started my 24 foot aisle runner last week! 🙂 I did book a DJ about a year ago, only to have my wedding in MN where I live now, vs. IA, where I grew up, so that was 100.00 wasted – lesson learned! Research your heart out, then you’ll know what you want closer to the time, that’s my advice.
Post # 9
@juliette.eliza: That’s mostly what we have been doing already since we have a separate “wedding savings” account.
And I definitely have considered all these reasons why the vendors are not ready to commit. But, geez they don’t have to be so darn rude about it! I am quickly checking vendors off the list simply because of their rudeness about my date, or the fact that a few have ignored my inquiries via phone and email completely.
Post # 10
Personally as a 2014 Bride Im afraid to start planning anything now becasue I change my mind like crazy, Im afraid if I decided on something now that next year or the beginning of 2014 something will come out that I’ll fall in love with and waste all my time and money starting over, but believe me it kills me that I can’t start planning now. I try to occupy myself by reviewing vendors and catering halls…Im also afraid that if I book to soon that the vendor wont be around for my wedding, like they will go out of business and Ill loose my deposits, its a terrible feeling, I’ve had it happen before when I had my moms surprise 50th, the catering venue closed down and we were out the $1,000 dollars…so becareful on that aspect of planning. 🙂
Post # 11
@MissMoscato: Where you apprehensive about buying your dress? I’m an Oct 2014 bride and think I have found MY dress but am worried its too early. I’ve been staring at this dress for months and am totally in love with it but am afraid to buy it.
Did you have any buyers remorse or are you still as in love with it as you were the day you bought it?
Post # 12
I agree with juliette.eliza. I also think it’s too early to book anything but you can tentatively plan: write out a guest list (it’ll grow or shrink and the list will change over the next 2 years), color scheme, favors, centerpieces, etc. Get a planning notebook to write all your ideas and paste pics, etc.
Post # 13
Not too early for browsing venues, collecting inspiration, organizing a budget and a general concept.
WAY too early for deposits, contracts, and major purchases.
Post # 14
I think that’s the hardest thing about waiting (date twins with a lot of you!). It’s SO exciting to plan and just get the ball rolling, but in reality two years is a long time and a lot can happen with vendors, your style and tastes, etc….
We did the long engagement only so we can have a lot of time to pay for everything and not end up in debt. We’re also planning on buying a house in the next 2 years and we have an 18-month-old daughter so I think the longer engagement works best for us so we don’t get stressed and the whole experience is enjoyable.
For now, I just gawk at wedding porn and save certain things that I like, DIYs I want to try, and dresses that I think I’ll like. I’m pretty bad about changing my style and my tastes change all the time so most of the big purchases will be held off, with the exception of the venue, which will need to be booked asap.
Post # 15
I browsed (& toured) a venue in Winter Park, FL (Orlando)…found it from the Knot magazine and fell in love. We were in the area moving my daughter into her apartment so I said why not & Fiance went with it…he actually really liked it as well.
Reception Area option – outside (we would sit under the arches while the guests would be in the outside area:
Post # 16
@Hopeful3120: Wow that venue is beautiful!!