(Closed) Planning too fast!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I wish I planned that far ahead, because now I am feeling the time crunch!  Good for you! Just don’t change your mind about things and you are golden.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel you…I only had a year and a half engagement, but all the major details were decided and paid for well in advance, well before the year mark. I even had a few of my vendors look at us weird because we were paying them off so far in advance. I loved it because it gave us time to concentrate on the little details and more than enough time to diy anything we wanted…which turned out to be alot more than we thought we would. I guess if you have the time, there’s no telling what you can get done! The absolute best thing about having all the major details done well in advance, there is no stress, or I should say there is very minimal stress!!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I did the same thing, I got engaged in June and the DJ, venue, food, cake, invitations, photographers, jewelry, shoes, etc. were all done in Aug.  Then I just felt like I wanted to do more wedding stuff.

I just decided to take on more DIY projects.  It’s been keeping me busy and it’s letting me add things like a snack buffet, extra favors, programs, etc. that I wasn’t going to be able to afford.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My friend who is also getting married in October next year is almost up to speed with you (minus flowers and cake, only ideas on those) and she only got engaged at the end of July. So DON’T WORRY! It’s better to be ahead of the game.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My wedding is September so I have a year and already have my wedding planner, venue, photographer, band, dress (put a deposit but won’t get it until December because I’m buying it used), and bridesmaids! I’ll probably have a florist and officiant by the end of the year too. My situation is a little different because I live in a different state than my wedding and I’m finishing my PhD in May and we will be looking for new jobs and moving about 4 months before the wedding, but still! I wanted to be 100% sure I don’t end up cramming, and our city is super competitive for the wedding industry so things book up really early. As long as you don’t change your mind about things, you’re fine! There will still be plenty to do 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My wedding isn’t until June of 2013 (we got engaged in January 2012) but I’ve finished most of the major planning – we’ve got our venue, florist, DJ, the dress, the hotel blocks, invitations, honeymoon and so on. I think it’s a good thing!

I kind of felt the same way you do, like… there’s gonna be nothing left to do for the next nine months but wait for the wedding! – so I sat down a few days ago to figure out what was left and there are still a TON of things left to do. Like: book the rehearsal dinner, plan the ceremony with our priest, pick readers, buy wedding jewelry, get the wedding party’s attire, DIY the program, make escort cards and the card box, buy our wedding rings, do the seating chart, book the bar for our after party, make the out of town bags, do the dress fittings, get passports, book the honeymoon flights… I mean, the list goes on! And I’m really glad we got the big stuff out of the way so that we’ll have plenty of free time to do all the little stuff without worrying about the big decisions, vendor meetings and so on. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

While you’ve done a lot of planning already, trust me there will be many small details coming up as the time gets closer that you aren’t even thinking of!

We had a 13 month engagement. We are down to the final 6 months now.  In the first month after being engaged, I had all my vendors booked and had my dress picked out.  There was a lull in planning from that point until just a few weeks ago.  Now, all the little details are starting to come in – bridesmaids dresses and accessories, my accessories, fittings, tuxes, invitations, favors, linens, ceremony writing, etc. etc.

I felt I had ALL The time in the world, but now it’s coming up so quickly I feel there is so much to do in so little time (and much of this was things I couldn’t have done months in advance).

Plan as much as you can ahead -t he more time the better! However, I think no matter how long your engagement is there is always going to be last minute scramble! Take a month or two off from planning and just enjoy being engaged! 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Im the same. We got engaged in october 2011 and our wedding is may 2013 so were having a 19th month engagement and tbh we’re pretty much done with the major stuff like venues, catering, entertainment, dress, shoes, hair & makeup, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, suits, photographer, transport, bridal suite.

Everything else like honeymoon, flowers, wedding bands etc are all planned and just need booking. Im naturally quite an organised person anyway but was worried that i got a bit carried away with booking everything so early but now i’ve got a list for all the small stuff like the little details that are important to us and realise there’s still so much to do, so i’m relieved all the major stuff is done and i can just enjoy personalising our day. Laughing

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am the SAME WAY! I also had never even dreamt of my wedding before, and it’s crazy how much wedding brain I have.  Never expected to have it!!

I started researching this summer and started really planning in late July/August.  I have my venue and photographer booked and my dress ordered.  I am meeting with florists for the next 3 weeks.  I also have looked at invitations (and ordered samples), know the colors and a lot of the decorations I want to do/make.  I know who I want for makeup/hair.  I also have a tentative guest list, binder with timeline, and a day of schedule already! 1 year and 1 week to go.

Sometimes I get bored at work, so all I want to do is research wedding stuff (this is how I find the time to do a schedule, timeline, etc) or come here because it also feeds my addiction! 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m also an early planner! Our wedding is in 12 months and we already have:

my dress & shoes

reception venue

almost ceremony venue (scheduled but contract needs signed)

DJ

Photographer

caterer

already went Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping

 

Most people look at me like I’m crazy but I am SUCH a planner and I can’t stand leaving things til the last minute. Plus I figured that spacing things out would be easier to pay for and so far I’ve been right. 

We’ve already been engaged for 21 months and when we finally get married, the engagement will have lasted 33 months! So when we finally picked a date, I was excited beyond belief to actually start the planning!

Early planning has also gotten us affordable, unique vendors/locations. Where I live, you need at LEAST a year to book popular places, DJs, caterers, etc. If we had waited, our selection would have been limited and since we are on a budget, I wanted to make sure the most affordable things were available.

I also just lost my job, which is a little worrisome, but I’m glad that we DID make so many down payments because at the very least, we have those vendors locked in.

So you’re not alone! You’re ahead of the game and I think your stress will be greatly reduced by doing things this way. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m also an early planner! Our wedding is in 12 months and we already have:

my dress & shoes

reception venue

almost ceremony venue (scheduled but contract needs signed)

DJ

Photographer

caterer

already went Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping

 

Most people look at me like I’m crazy but I am SUCH a planner and I can’t stand leaving things til the last minute. Plus I figured that spacing things out would be easier to pay for and so far I’ve been right. 

We’ve already been engaged for 21 months and when we finally get married, the engagement will have lasted 33 months! So when we finally picked a date, I was excited beyond belief to actually start the planning!

Early planning has also gotten us affordable, unique vendors/locations. Where I live, you need at LEAST a year to book popular places, DJs, caterers, etc. If we had waited, our selection would have been limited and since we are on a budget, I wanted to make sure the most affordable things were available.

I also just lost my job, which is a little worrisome, but I’m glad that we DID make so many down payments because at the very least, we have those vendors locked in.

So you’re not alone! You’re ahead of the game and I think your stress will be greatly reduced by doing things this way. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m in the same boat. Wedding is next October and we are done with all the big details. I’m just hoping I don’t regret any of my choices down the line. 

Where I’m from things book up fast (our wedding date was the first available sat for next year) so we didn’t have much of a choice. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsFutureG:  With school I had to do the same. I wanted to elope but when I got “stuck” planning I jumped in and got it done. Vendors are booked, engagement shots done, invites being addressed as we speak (they wont go out just yet of course) and all my DIY’s are pretty much done. my only advice is be open to change. I finished our flowers (we did artificial though my dad thought they looked real enough to try and smell em and he’s a landscaper) yet found a turtle pin about a week ago. both Fiance and i got one to go on our Bout and bouqet. We booked our honeymoon this week and now im shifting energy to honeymoon outfits- have most of those too lol. bottom line be open to change

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Im kind of last minute. Were having the wedding at my uncles house in our hometown and we live in a different state (alaska). Im here visiting my mom for deployment (husband’s in afghanistan) and i leave back to alaska in a week in a half. Ive done just about everything in the past week HAHA because our wedding is in december and we will get back to our hometown a day maybe two days before the wedding. The only issues ive really been having are that i STILL need to get my dress fitted and my car broke down which isnt helping at all.

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